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  • How Does Child Support Work? The Definitive Guide for Parents Who Love Their Kids

    How Does Child Support Work? The Definitive Guide for Parents Who Love Their Kids

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    If I asked you, “What is child support?” what would you say? Something like, “It’s when one parent gives the other parent money for the kids after they’re divorced?” And if I followed up by asking, “What is child support used for?” would you say, “Um… their expenses?”

    Even though child support impacts more than 60% of all divorces in the United States, there so much confusion around the subject. If you have children, it’s crucial that child support be addressed carefully and thoroughly at the time of your divorce, because it can have a significant impact on their lives now and for many years to come.

    In my experience, learning the basics of issues that pertain to an individual’s divorce before starting the process can help them better work with their spouse (and chosen divorce professional) to resolve them. So, in this post, you’ll learn the fundamentals of child support, some options for negotiating it, and what you can do to prevent your children from becoming economic victims of your divorce.

    Let’s dive in!

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    What is child support?

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    Simply stated, child support is financial support both parents provide to their children post-divorce, for the children’s expenses. Unlike alimony, which is financial support provided by one ex-spouse to the other, for the recipient adult’s expenses.

    [/fusion_text][fusion_title title_type=”text” scroll_reveal_effect=”color_change” scroll_reveal_basis=”chars” scroll_reveal_behavior=”always” scroll_reveal_duration=”500″ scroll_reveal_stagger=”200″ scroll_reveal_delay=”0″ scroll_reveal_above_fold=”yes” marquee_direction=”left” marquee_mask_edges=”no” marquee_speed=”15000″ rotation_effect=”bounceIn” display_time=”1200″ highlight_effect=”circle” loop_animation=”once” highlight_animation_duration=”1500″ highlight_width=”9″ highlight_smudge_effect=”no” highlight_top_margin=”0″ before_text=”” rotation_text=”” highlight_text=”” after_text=”” awb-switch-editor-focus=”” title_link=”off” link_url=”” link_target=”_self” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” sticky_display=”normal,sticky” class=”” id=”” content_align_medium=”” content_align_small=”left” content_align=”left” size=”2″ animated_font_size=”” fusion_font_family_title_font=”” fusion_font_variant_title_font=”” font_size=”38px” line_height=”” letter_spacing=”” text_transform=”” text_color=”var(–awb-color4)” hue=”” saturation=”” lightness=”” alpha=”” animated_text_color=”” highlight_color=”” text_shadow=”no” text_shadow_vertical=”” text_shadow_horizontal=”” text_shadow_blur=”0″ text_shadow_color=”” text_stroke=”no” text_stroke_size=”1″ text_stroke_color=”” text_overflow=”none” margin_top_medium=”” margin_right_medium=”” margin_bottom_medium=”” margin_left_medium=”” margin_top_small=”” margin_right_small=”” margin_bottom_small=”” margin_left_small=”” margin_top=”” margin_right=”” margin_bottom=”” margin_left=”” margin_top_mobile=”” margin_bottom_mobile=”” gradient_font=”no” gradient_start_color=”” gradient_end_color=”” gradient_start_position=”0″ gradient_end_position=”100″ gradient_type=”linear” radial_direction=”center center” linear_angle=”180″ style_type=”default” sep_color=”” link_color=”” link_hover_color=”” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_color=”” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″ animation_offset=””]How does child support work? What is child support used for? And what does child support cover?[/fusion_title][fusion_text columns=”” column_min_width=”” column_spacing=”” rule_style=”” rule_size=”” rule_color=”” hue=”” saturation=”” lightness=”” alpha=”” user_select=”” awb-switch-editor-focus=”” content_alignment_medium=”” content_alignment_small=”left” content_alignment=”left” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” sticky_display=”normal,sticky” class=”” id=”” width_medium=”” width_small=”” width=”” min_width_medium=”” min_width_small=”” min_width=”” max_width_medium=”” max_width_small=”” max_width=”” margin_top=”” margin_right=”” margin_bottom=”” margin_left=”” fusion_font_family_text_font=”” fusion_font_variant_text_font=”” font_size=”16px” line_height=”” letter_spacing=”” text_transform=”” text_color=”var(–awb-color6)” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_color=”” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″ animation_offset=”” logics=””]

    “What’s in and what’s out of child support” varies based on the state you live in. But in my experience, there are 4 types of expenses parents encounter when raising kids:

    • Ordinary expenses – including housing, food, utilities, etc.
    • Extraordinary expenses – including summer camp, child care, extracurricular activities, etc.
    • Medical expenses – including health insurance premiums, deductibles, co-pays, and other out-of-pocket medical expenditures
    • Post-secondary education expenses – including tuition, room, and board, books, transportation to and from school, and any costs associated with preparing for, or enrolling in, college or other post-secondary education such as trade schools

    How you negotiate and come to an agreement on each type of expense – and how long you’re expected to pay them – can vary from state-to-state and divorcing couple to divorcing couple.

    [/fusion_text][fusion_title title_type=”text” scroll_reveal_effect=”color_change” scroll_reveal_basis=”chars” scroll_reveal_behavior=”always” scroll_reveal_duration=”500″ scroll_reveal_stagger=”200″ scroll_reveal_delay=”0″ scroll_reveal_above_fold=”yes” marquee_direction=”left” marquee_mask_edges=”no” marquee_speed=”15000″ rotation_effect=”bounceIn” display_time=”1200″ highlight_effect=”circle” loop_animation=”once” highlight_animation_duration=”1500″ highlight_width=”9″ highlight_smudge_effect=”no” highlight_top_margin=”0″ before_text=”” rotation_text=”” highlight_text=”” after_text=”” awb-switch-editor-focus=”” title_link=”off” link_url=”” link_target=”_self” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” sticky_display=”normal,sticky” class=”” id=”” content_align_medium=”” content_align_small=”left” content_align=”left” size=”2″ animated_font_size=”” fusion_font_family_title_font=”” fusion_font_variant_title_font=”” font_size=”38px” line_height=”” letter_spacing=”” text_transform=”” text_color=”var(–awb-color4)” hue=”” saturation=”” lightness=”” alpha=”” animated_text_color=”” highlight_color=”” text_shadow=”no” text_shadow_vertical=”” text_shadow_horizontal=”” text_shadow_blur=”0″ text_shadow_color=”” text_stroke=”no” text_stroke_size=”1″ text_stroke_color=”” text_overflow=”none” margin_top_medium=”” margin_right_medium=”” margin_bottom_medium=”” margin_left_medium=”” margin_top_small=”” margin_right_small=”” margin_bottom_small=”” margin_left_small=”” margin_top=”” margin_right=”” margin_bottom=”” margin_left=”” margin_top_mobile=”” margin_bottom_mobile=”” gradient_font=”no” gradient_start_color=”” gradient_end_color=”” gradient_start_position=”0″ gradient_end_position=”100″ gradient_type=”linear” radial_direction=”center center” linear_angle=”180″ style_type=”default” sep_color=”” link_color=”” link_hover_color=”” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_color=”” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″ animation_offset=””]Who pays child support?[/fusion_title][fusion_text columns=”” column_min_width=”” column_spacing=”” rule_style=”” rule_size=”” rule_color=”” hue=”” saturation=”” lightness=”” alpha=”” user_select=”” awb-switch-editor-focus=”” content_alignment_medium=”” content_alignment_small=”left” content_alignment=”left” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” sticky_display=”normal,sticky” class=”” id=”” width_medium=”” width_small=”” width=”” min_width_medium=”” min_width_small=”” min_width=”” max_width_medium=”” max_width_small=”” max_width=”” margin_top=”” margin_right=”” margin_bottom=”” margin_left=”” fusion_font_family_text_font=”” fusion_font_variant_text_font=”” font_size=”16px” line_height=”” letter_spacing=”” text_transform=”” text_color=”var(–awb-color6)” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_color=”” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″ animation_offset=”” logics=””]

    There’s a common misconception that only one parent pays child support. Since one parent writes a check, it may seem like there is only one paying parent. But that check is only meant to cover a portion of the child or children’s ordinary expenses. The recipient parent is also expected to contribute a portion of those expenses. The three other types of expenses are typically negotiated separately and are also shared by the parties.

    So, the reality is both parents pay child support!

    [/fusion_text][fusion_title title_type=”text” scroll_reveal_effect=”color_change” scroll_reveal_basis=”chars” scroll_reveal_behavior=”always” scroll_reveal_duration=”500″ scroll_reveal_stagger=”200″ scroll_reveal_delay=”0″ scroll_reveal_above_fold=”yes” marquee_direction=”left” marquee_mask_edges=”no” marquee_speed=”15000″ rotation_effect=”bounceIn” display_time=”1200″ highlight_effect=”circle” loop_animation=”once” highlight_animation_duration=”1500″ highlight_width=”9″ highlight_smudge_effect=”no” highlight_top_margin=”0″ before_text=”” rotation_text=”” highlight_text=”” after_text=”” awb-switch-editor-focus=”” title_link=”off” link_url=”” link_target=”_self” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” sticky_display=”normal,sticky” class=”” id=”” content_align_medium=”” content_align_small=”left” content_align=”left” size=”2″ animated_font_size=”” fusion_font_family_title_font=”” fusion_font_variant_title_font=”” font_size=”38px” line_height=”” letter_spacing=”” text_transform=”” text_color=”var(–awb-color4)” hue=”” saturation=”” lightness=”” alpha=”” animated_text_color=”” highlight_color=”” text_shadow=”no” text_shadow_vertical=”” text_shadow_horizontal=”” text_shadow_blur=”0″ text_shadow_color=”” text_stroke=”no” text_stroke_size=”1″ text_stroke_color=”” text_overflow=”none” margin_top_medium=”” margin_right_medium=”” margin_bottom_medium=”” margin_left_medium=”” margin_top_small=”” margin_right_small=”” margin_bottom_small=”” margin_left_small=”” margin_top=”” margin_right=”” margin_bottom=”” margin_left=”” margin_top_mobile=”” margin_bottom_mobile=”” gradient_font=”no” gradient_start_color=”” gradient_end_color=”” gradient_start_position=”0″ gradient_end_position=”100″ gradient_type=”linear” radial_direction=”center center” linear_angle=”180″ style_type=”default” sep_color=”” link_color=”” link_hover_color=”” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_color=”” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″ animation_offset=””]When does child support end?[/fusion_title][fusion_text columns=”” column_min_width=”” column_spacing=”” rule_style=”” rule_size=”” rule_color=”” hue=”” saturation=”” lightness=”” alpha=”” user_select=”” awb-switch-editor-focus=”” content_alignment_medium=”” content_alignment_small=”left” content_alignment=”left” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” sticky_display=”normal,sticky” class=”list-ul-style ” id=”” width_medium=”” width_small=”” width=”” min_width_medium=”” min_width_small=”” min_width=”” max_width_medium=”” max_width_small=”” max_width=”” margin_top=”” margin_right=”” margin_bottom=”” margin_left=”” fusion_font_family_text_font=”” fusion_font_variant_text_font=”” font_size=”16px” line_height=”” letter_spacing=”” text_transform=”” text_color=”var(–awb-color6)” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_color=”” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″ animation_offset=”” logics=””]

    When child support ends varies from state to state and couple to couple (based on something negotiated.) But generally speaking:

    • The payment of ordinary expenses typically ends upon the graduation from high school of a minor child.
    • The payment of extraordinary expenses commonly ends upon emancipation.
    • The payment of medical expenses typically ends when a child is able to procure their own health insurance, or age 26, whichever occurs first.
    • The payment of college expenses normally ends after four consecutive years of attendance.

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    There are two ways child support (and all other divorce-related issues) can be resolved: you and your spouse can negotiate, or a family law court will decide for you. When it comes to child support, every couple’s situation and determining factors are unique. Unfortunately, when the court dictates a child support order, you never know how they will decide it. So, you could wind up with an outcome you don’t think is fair or that doesn’t meet your children’s financial needs.

    The good news is you have a lot of flexibility and can maintain a lot of control if you settle out of court.

    It’s common (and normal) for divorcing spouses to have different points of view on child custody, alimony, division of property, and/or child support. But even if you have disagreements, it doesn’t mean you have to go in front of a judge to get those issues resolved. Not all divorces have to go to family court. In fact, resolving disputes out of court saves you a lot of money and time. It can also help you avoid or lessen a lot of the negative emotional impact that contested divorce cases can have on you and your kids.

    When it comes to child support, every couple’s situation is unique.

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    In the United States, there are three ways guideline child support is calculated.

    They are:

    • The Income Shares model
    • The Percentage of Obligor’s Income model
    • The Melson formula

    Which method you use depends on the state in which you live.

    Let’s take a high-level look at each of the three models to understand how they work.

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    Income Shares model:

    • The income of both parents is added together.
    • A basic child support obligation is determined from either a state-specific table or calculated as a percentage, based on the number of minor children.
    • (optional) Parents can choose to add in other expenses such as the cost of children’s health insurance, or daycare.
    • The child support award is prorated between the parents based on the ratio of their incomes to each other.

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    Percentage of Income model:

    • The income of the non-custodial parent is determined.
    • Using guidance provided by the state, a percentage to apply to the income is determined based on the number of minor children or a flat percentage.
    • A basic child support obligation is determined by applying the percentage from step two to the income from step one.
    • (optional) Parents can choose to add in other expenses such as the cost of children’s health insurance, or daycare.

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    The Melson formula:

    The Melson Formula is a more complex version of the income shares model except this model tries to ensure that each parent’s basic needs are met, in addition to the children.

    It’s far too complex to try and explain in a blog post, and since only 3 states currently use it, I’m not going to cover it in this post.

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    Pros and cons of using a guideline to calculate child support payments

    Pros:

    • It’s Based on a repeatable formula. If two different couples entered the same information into the guideline, in theory, it would output the same child support award in both cases.
    • It Removes the human element. This can be a good thing if you and your spouse have trouble agreeing.
    • They are commonly used. Which may make you and/or your spouse more comfortable knowing others have used it to agree on a child support amount.
    • They are state-specific. You may be happy to know thought was given to what it costs to raise a child in the state where you live.

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    Cons:

    • They may not however, account for where you live within the state. If you live in Chicago or New York City, you have a much higher cost of living than parents who live in the suburbs or rural exurbs, which guidelines won’t usually account for.
    • They may have an upper income limit. If your income exceeds the guideline “cap” you and your spouse will have to negotiate an additional amount of child support payment, based on income above the cap.
    • They don’t work for parents with variable incomes. If you’re a commissioned salesperson, a police officer who works lots of overtime, or even someone who receives a bonus that varies year to year, the guidelines won’t work for you as designed.

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    What if you and your spouse don’t want to use the child support guideline?

    There is one other approach I’ve sometimes seen parents use and that’s budget-based.

    In these cases, parents put together a budget of the children’s ordinary expenses and use that as a basis for determining a child support amount.

    While this is technically possible, there are several things you need to be aware of when going this route:

    • You’d better have a good reason for deviating from your state’s child support guidelines.
    • Guidelines usually serve as a floor, so agreeing to an amount that’s lower than the one offered up by your state’s guideline may or may not be viewed favorably by the courts where you live.
    • It may be difficult to determine how much a child’s expenses will be.

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    How is child support determined for all other expenses?

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    As you previously learned, there are three other types of child support expenses. And while some guidelines do allow limited inclusion of certain types of expenses, in my experience, parents usually choose to negotiate them directly.

    For this to work, you need to discuss and come to an agreement on three things:

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    1.) What’s in and what’s out?

    It’s a good idea at the time of your divorce to decide what items you are both willing to share in moving forward.

    Private school is a good example of this. Some parents I’ve worked with want their kids to go to a private school as they get older. While others feel that public school is just fine.

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    2.) How will the unknown be handled?

    Of course, there will be expenses that neither of you saw coming so you’ll want to agree on a framework for future discussions when these types of expenses crop up.

    A good example of this is a sports camp. Your 2-year-old might not know a basketball from a basketweave. But 14 years from now, they may be the next WNBA/NBA all-star and want to get some specialized training.

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    3.) Who pays how much?

    Let’s say you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse have agreed on what’s in and what’s out of your child expense-sharing agreement. And how you’ll handle future expenses when they crop up.

    Now, you need to decide what each of your shares of those expenses is going to be. Your choices are:

    • Share equally
    • Share in proportion to income
    • Share in a fixed percentage
    • Assign expenses to each party

    Which option you choose will depend on a variety of tangible and intangible factors including, but not limited to, your income, how amicable your divorce is, and if you agree on what types of activities you’ll contribute to.

    But before you decide which one you think is right for you, let’s look at the pros and cons of each:

    Share equally:

    • Pro: It’s simple to determine each party’s share.
    • Con: This can lead to conflict if one parent can’t come up with their half.

    Share in proportion to income:

    • Pro: Each party pays a share based on what they earn.
    • Con: Shares need to be continually calculated based on then-current incomes.

    Share in a fixed percentage:

    • Pro: You each know your share.
    • Con: Your incomes could change and along with it, your original ratio.

    Assign expenses to each party:

    • Pro: Can reduce tension while allowing parents to each support activities they believe are worthwhile.
    • Con: Children’s interests frequently change, leading to the possibility one parent may be solely responsible for all extraordinary expenses.

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    Child support recap and conclusion:

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    To say child support is a complicated issue would be an understatement! And there’s far more to child support than running a guideline formula, printing out a child support worksheet, and calling it a day. That’s because it’s not a one-size-fits-all subject – every couple’s children, circumstances, and situational complexities are unique.

    But you will have the most control over settling the terms of child support (and all other divorce matters) by negotiating out-of-court.

    That doesn’t mean you have to struggle to try to resolve your child support case on your own. In fact, for most divorcing parents, this topic is much too complex to resolve without professional help. By using an alternative dispute resolution process like mediation, you can increase the likelihood of reaching an out-of-court negotiated agreement you and your spouse both find acceptable and both had a hand in creating.

    Hopefully, after reading this post, you have a better understanding of this confusing issue and feel better prepared to work with your spouse (and your chosen divorce professional) – to negotiate a mutually agreeable out of court child support arrangement that puts your kids first and ensures they grow up happy, healthy, and financially supported.

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    State-specific divorce child support challenges:

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  • Divorce After 10 Years: 4 Special Considerations That Affect Your Settlement

    Divorce After 10 Years: 4 Special Considerations That Affect Your Settlement

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    You would think getting a divorce after 10 years would seem less complicated than divorces after longer-term marriages. But in my experience as a divorce mediator, that’s not usually the case. Because there’s a lot at stake when divorcing after 10 years of marriage, and there’s very little guidance on how things should be divided and decided, things can get complicated. And quickly!

    In this post, we’ll explore what you can do when after a 10 year marriage, divorce is inevitable. And steps you can take if you don’t want your divorce proceedings to take forever, cost a fortune or destroy your family in the process.

    But before we do that, let’s understand first why the 10-year mark is such an important milestone when ending a marriage.

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    4 Reasons divorce after 10 years is such a critical milestone:

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    1. In a divorce after 10 years, you’ve likely co-mingled your assets and liabilities

    In a divorce after a short term marriage, couples likely haven’t yet co-mingled their assets or liabilities. They still each have separate property and debts such as checking accounts or credit cards, and statements from their pension or 401(k) from before they got married. Which makes figuring out who gets what less complicated when they divorce.

    But after being married 10 years, divorce is more difficult because it’s more likely you and your spouse commingled many or all of your assets and liabilities. At the 10-year mark, you most likely have joint marital property like joint checking and savings accounts, or joint credit cards.

    You may even have purchased a house and used funds from your separate accounts to make this joint purchase. And you’re well on your way towards accumulating enough money in your retirement accounts for your golden years.

    You’ve joined your lives together financially. Which will make separating your assets and liabilities all the more complex.

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    2. In a divorce after 10 years, one of you may work inside the home while one of you works outside of it

    If you’re like many of the couples I work with, you were married a few years before you decided to have children and expand your family. And you may have decided it would be best for one of you to stay at home with the kids.

    So when seeking a divorce after 10 years, if you’re the one home with the kids, you’ve probably been out of the workforce just long enough that jumping right back in and earning what you used to earn may be difficult – if not impossible!

    Even if you and your spouse are both working outside the home, you probably rely on each other quite a bit for your daily routine. Because your kids are in the phase where school, homework, after-school activities, sports, religious education, and being invited to friends’ birthday parties are in full swing. I can hear you saying “tell me about it Joe…”

    For couples married 10 years, divorce is disruptive to your “normal” routine. And changing that now, especially while your kids are young, can be quite a challenge.

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    3. How long spousal support/alimony payments will last to your former spouse can change at the 10 year mark

    The duration of your marriage can also often determine how long you pay or receive alimony / spousal support (also referred to as maintenance or spousal maintenance). And in some states, such as California, divorce after 10 years represents a significant milestone when it comes to alimony obligations.

    Some states consider a divorce before 10 years of marriage a “shorter term.” So the duration of spousal support isn’t as long as it would be for a couple married 10 years or more. And while I’m not suggesting you should stay stuck in an unhappy marriage on the chance it will increase the duration of spousal support, I’m simply saying how alimony is determined can sometimes change at the 10-year mark.

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    4. If you’re of retirement age, your Social Security benefits may be impacted when divorcing after 10 years

    Rarely does getting a divorce involve good news. But when it comes to Social Security, divorce after 10 years is an exception. If you and your spouse were married for 10 years or more, you may be eligible to receive Social Security based on your ex-spouse’s earnings. And receive greater benefits than if you were to collect on your own.

    In order to be eligible for this increased benefit, you need to meet the following criteria:

    • You are unmarried at the time you go to collect
    • You are of eligible age (i.e. age 62 or older)
    • Your ex-spouse is eligible for Social Security benefits; and
    • The benefit you would receive, based on your own earnings history, would be less than the benefit you would receive if it were based on your ex-spouse’s earnings.

    And if you’re the “ex-spouse” in this example, there is no impact whatsoever to the amount you, as the higher-earning ex-spouse, would collect from the Social Security Administration. And your marital status doesn’t matter, either. You can be re-married, divorced, or widowed, and your ex-spouse can still collect off of your earnings, with no impact on you (or your current spouse).

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    What is a wife entitled to after 10 years of marriage? Or husband?

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    So far you’ve learned 4 issues that can complicate things when divorcing after 10 years of marriage.

    But now that you know what to watch out for, how do you address these challenges in a practical way? And figure out what a husband or wife is entitled to after 10 years of marriage in your divorce settlement?

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    When determining your roles as co-parents:

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    In the 80’s and 90’s, it was quite common for the wife (like my mom) to have custody of the children. With the majority of the parenting time going to her. While the husband (like my dad) was left to maybe one night during the week and every other weekend.

    These days, 50-50 parenting plans are far more common. In fact, more than 80% of our mediation clients negotiate an equal time sharing plan in their agreements. That’s up from 10% when I first started mediating in 2008.

    If you and your soon to be ex have children, you may think as the wife, you’re entitled to spend a majority of the time with the kids. And in some cases it may be. For example, if your spouse travels frequently for work, or commutes a great distance from home.

    But what it really comes down to is it’s in your children’s best interests to see both of their parents as much as possible. That may be a 50-50 parenting plan, or one where the children spend a majority of the overnights with mom, and see dad every day for dinner, sleeping over his place on weekends.

    However you and your husband (or wife) choose to determine your time sharing, is entirely up to you to negotiate.

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    When determining spousal support / alimony:

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    There’s a common misconception that simply being married for ten years automatically guarantees permanent spousal support / alimony. This thinking is especially common in California due to how some people interpret California law.

    While the length of a marriage such as 10 years can significantly affect divorce negotiations, the reality is much more nuanced than that. As each divorce process depends on multiple factors specific to a couple’s unique situation and the jurisdiction in which they file.

    In a divorce after 10 years of marriage, factors to consider when determining spousal support / alimony include:

    • Each partner’s earning potential, contributions to the household, and future financial prospects;
    • Any career interruptions or childcare responsibilities more significantly impacting one spouse;
    • Any potential custody arrangements the parties have agreed to;
    • Each spouse’s age, health, and employability;
    • And the lifestyle maintained during the marriage.

    Because there are very few states in the US that have an alimony guideline, it makes coming to agreement on this difficult issue even under the best of conditions.

    Leaving it to the parties to negotiate a duration. Rather than simply accepting (another common misconception) that spousal support will last half the length of the marriage.

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    When dividing your assets and liabilities:

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    When deciding to call it quits after being married 10 years, divorce requires you to figure out “who gets what” of your marital assets and liabilities. And how that all happens depends on where you live.

    For example, some states we practice in like Illinois, New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania, are equitable distribution states, while others like California and Washington State are community property states.

    But whether you live in an equitable distribution state or a community property state, you and your divorcing spouse still have quite a bit of freedom to determine how you split your marital assets and debts.

    There aren’t really any formulas or guidelines on how things should be divided between a couple. It just needs to be fair. But when it comes to divorce, what does fair even mean? Unfortunately, no one is exactly clear. As there aren’t many formulas on how to divide your assets and liabilities, and no clear definition of fair, you are both once again left to negotiate it.

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    Married 10 years? Divorce mediation is your best solution.

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    As you just learned, resolving the issues of a divorce after 10 years of marriage, aren’t so easy to do. And there really aren’t any clear cut laws, formulas, or guidelines that explicitly outline who’s entitled to what. That’s why you’ll get the best outcome when you negotiate the terms of your no-fault divorce agreement.

    And that’s what mediation is all about.

    With the right approach, like divorce mediation, you can get through this challenging time with your dignity intact, your finances less damaged, and a foundation for cooperative co-parenting that puts your family first. Without the need to ever set foot in a divorce court.

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    Key takeaways

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    • Divorcing after 10 years is significantly more complicated than divorcing after a shorter marriage, primarily due to the extensive co-mingling of assets, liabilities, and financial interdependence that typically occurs during this time.
    • At the 10-year mark, couples often have joint property, shared retirement accounts, and more complex financial entanglements, making asset division more challenging compared to shorter-term marriages.
    • Parenting arrangements have evolved, with 50-50 custody plans becoming increasingly common, focusing on the children’s best interests rather than traditional custody models from previous decades.
    • The 10-year marriage milestone can impact spousal support (alimony) determinations, with some states treating marriages of 10 years or longer differently, but there’s no automatic guarantee of permanent alimony.
    • The division of assets and liabilities depends on state laws (either equitable distribution or community property states), but ultimately requires negotiation between spouses to reach a fair agreement.
    • Divorce mediation is recommended as the best solution for couples divorcing after 10 years, as it allows for more flexible, collaborative negotiations about asset division, child custody, and support arrangements.

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  • Divorce Advice for Stay-at-Home Moms: Protecting Your Children and Financial Future

    Divorce Advice for Stay-at-Home Moms: Protecting Your Children and Financial Future

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    The divorce advice for women you’ll read in this post came from a collaboration with an individual who has generously shared her experiences with divorce. Guest contributor and parenting coach, Dana Hirt, consciously set out to protect her three young children from the negative effects of divorce and in doing so, had a “good” divorce which paved the way to her own future happiness and the well-being of her entire family.

    Dana shares her stay at home mom divorce story and offers some tips for how you, too, can plan a good divorce. Because as you’ll soon find out, divorcing with kids isn’t easy. And there definitely is a right way and a wrong way to go about divorce with young children involved!

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    You’ve decided you want a divorce.

    Deciding to divorce your partner – especially knowing what a destabilizing effect it will have on your children – is probably the most difficult choice you’ve ever considered. No doubt you spent many months deliberating, trying to come up with an alternative solution.

    During that time, you likely fought for your marriage and your family with everything you had. Perhaps you worked with a therapist or attended a support group to ensure your decision was the right one. Having made the wrenching decision, you’re experiencing pain, anguish, sadness and uncertainty beyond what you think you can endure.

    I know exactly how you feel.

    Marriage and family, which have long been heralded as a central part of a successful society, were extremely important to me. When I married my husband at 26, it was “‘til death do us part.” The first years of marriage and family life went pretty much as I presumed they would. So, after 13 years of marriage when I found myself thinking about upending my marriage commitment, it felt inconceivable. Plus, it was difficult to face people who would consider me a failure at an institution in which I presumed I would excel.

    When I first started thinking about divorce, I was the mother of three young children aged 12, 9 and 7, to whom I was fiercely devoted. As a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), protecting them from undue harm – and modeling how to live a rich and full life – was (and remains) my life’s purpose. In fact, equally important was to make sure they saw what a loving, enduring and mutually respectful marriage looked like. Given the circumstances in my marriage, divorcing their father was the only way to do that. There simply was no other way I could live my life with integrity. Even with the rightness of the decision on my side, and my desire to have a “good divorce,” the road was at times unendingly sad, fearful, and emotionally draining.

    Going through the process of divorce and rebuilding my and my family’s lives that first year was one of the hardest periods of my adult life.

    You’ve likely discovered that divorce is not only unsettling for you and your partner. Other people in your life – both close and tangential – may be emotionally triggered by the news. Some people will have no compunction telling you that you should have tried harder to keep your family together. Family and friends may not be supportive in ways you find meaningful or helpful. You may be given advice to do everything possible to eviscerate your partner in court and/or get the biggest financial settlement you possibly can. Another may suggest you interview every rock-star divorce attorney in town, thereby disqualifying those family law professionals as options for your husband.

    It’s never easy to be in a fragile state of mind and have people project their issues onto your unique situation. But sad to say, it’s part of the process. What got me through was knowing that no matter how hard divorce would be on me, I was going to do whatever was necessary to ameliorate its impact on my kids at every step of the process – and to work with their father to do the same.

    Let’s move on to talk about a subject near and dear to every SAHM’s heart… Putting your kids first. By deciding not to work outside the home while your kids were young, you clearly made the intentional decision to put your children and their needs before your desire for career fulfillment. That children-first decision is even more important now. Your kids are undergoing a massive rupture in their lives, which makes them more vulnerable and at risk. At this tenuous time in their young lives, your children will be watching and learning from you more than ever before.

    The question you must ask yourself is this: What do you want them to see? My answer was that no matter what the circumstance, I wanted my children to see me comport myself with grace and dignity. I was determined to find a way to get my own emotional and psychological needs met without forfeiting my all-important job as their Mom.

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    I wanted to have a good divorce. And at the end of every day, I wanted to be able to say I was doing the absolute best I could for my children.

    In one way, I had a distinct, albeit unfortunate blueprint for how not to proceed. As a child of a horrific divorce, I knew how harrowing it could be on children. My folks did everything psychologists urge divorcing parents not to do.

    They:

    • Fought in front of us;
    • Talked about each other to us kids;
    • Acted spitefully and vindictively toward one another;
    • Put us children in the middle;
    • Forced a custody battle that nearly required court intervention.

    Fortunately I was a resilient girl, and I found other adults to support and tend to me at a time when my parents did not or could not. Three decades later, I found myself keenly in touch with that early experience. Every decision I made…every situation my children came to me with…every interaction with their father was viewed through the lens of, “What did it feel like for me and how can I make it better for my kids?”

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    Divorce Advice for Women: Valuable tools and tips for living through the divorce process.

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    My experience – and those of many divorcing and divorced co-parents in my coaching practice – has demonstrated that while the road is difficult, it’s possible to survive and even thrive during and after divorce. Recent research on the effects of divorce on children is that it’s not divorce, per se, that psychologically damages children. It’s how you divorce that is the predictor of future problems. That makes being as mindful as possible as you go through the process absolutely essential.

    While I understand that each divorce is unique, there are some valuable tips and advice that have helped me and other SAHMs to manage through divorce. Perhaps some of them will resonate with you:

    • Remember that you can’t control your partner; you can only control what you do and how you act. Decide the mindset you want to have. Parent your kids how you believe is best.
    • Find trusted people (family and/or friends) who will be there for you 24/7. Quality – not quantity, is what matters.
    • Let yourself fall apart when you’re not on Mom duty.There were some days that I was a literal mess from the time I dropped my kids off at school in the morning until I picked them up. But at 3:05pm, Mommy was back, upbeat and there for my kids.
    • Answer your children’s questions and address their fears in age-appropriate ways. Toddlers will be particularly sensitive to changes in their routines, so make every effort to try to maintain consistency even if it is between two homes. Also note that attachment to the primary caregiver may become more pronounced. Tweens may be especially concerned about how Daddy is doing, particularly if he moved out of the family home. Reassure them that he is taking good care of himself and that he would be happy to answer any questions they have about him directly. Then give their Dad a heads-up to prepare. Your teens probably will not be terribly surprised by the split, as by that age they tend to be receptive to even nuanced tension between parents. Given their development stage, their primary concern is likely to be themselves. Reassure them that you are okay and are handling things, and that proms, class trips and college visits will go on as planned.
    • Divorce is an emotional roller coaster, so take extra good care of yourself: Seek therapy if you want or need professional support for how to cope with divorce. Find support groups of other divorced or divorcing SAHMs. Eat healthily and get at least some exercise. Do plenty of soothing self-care, whether that’s a bubble bath, buying fresh flowers or getting a massage.
    • Confront the worst-case scenario that tops the list of your fears and decide what you will do if it comes to pass. I found that considering the ‘what ifs’ was helpful when I dealt with the ‘now thens’.
    • Do your best to deflect rude or invasive comments about your divorce; fight the urge to defend your position or your ex-partner.
    • Protect your children’s image of their father – regardless of what he may have done to you. For example, don’t use your kids as a wedge between you and their father. And don’t keep your children from spending time with their father to punish him.
    • Unfair settlements hurt everyone – kids included. Keep focused on what is fair and equitable for all concerned.
    • Don’t punish your ex-partner for abdicating his role as a more involved father if you both agreed he would be the breadwinner and you would be a SAHM. Reconsider that now you need a new agreement for how he will co-parent successfully when the kids are with him.
    • Empower yourself by getting educated about the divorce process and its financial implications. Learn what the terminology means. Seek the guidance of a qualified professional to determine a fair amount and length of child support and/or alimony payments. Ask questions if your divorce mediator or attorney says something you don’t understand.

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    My personal and professional experience with mediation.

    Facing divorce as a stay at home mom, a number of people advised me to get an attorney to protect my interests, money and assets. Not sure which route to take, I asked a divorce attorney friend of mine for her professional opinion. She advised me to consider divorce mediation to work out the parenting agreement as well as any financial settlements with my soon-to-be ex.

    Hiring a divorce lawyer and potentially triggering a litigious start, she said, would make an already difficult situation potentially much more gruesome emotionally. And if it got contentious, which attorney-driven divorces often do – it had the potential to harm our children unnecessarily.

    I chose mediation…gratefully, the kids’ Dad felt similarly and agreed to this approach. In simple terms, divorce mediation is a process by which two individuals prioritize and articulate their individual desires, and then work in collaboration with professional mediators so that each party can get enough of what they need to agree to the dissolution of the marriage.

    The right mindset is essential for a successful mediation, and both parties need to be committed to the process.

    If you feel the need to punish your partner, mediation will likely be unsuccessful. If you feel extremely resentful, get the help and support you need so you don’t sacrifice your children’s well-being for the sake of vindication. Perhaps one of the biggest challenges of a divorce is accepting that you no longer will be able to control everything about your kids’ lives when they’re with their father. This is what makes a good parenting agreement the bedrock of a “good” divorce. Without a doubt, you’re going to have to cede control over certain aspects of your kids’ lives – and how their Dad chooses to parent them. So if you want to have a voice in the kid decisions that really matter – then you need to be able to cooperative and compromise with your ex-husband.

    Personally, I found the experience of mediation to be empowering.

    As a SAHM, I wondered if the mediator would consider me to be in a weaker position. But qualified mediators don’t allow for an imbalance of power. Their aim is to ensure that both partners feel equally empowered to advocate for what they deem to be fair and equitable for themselves and their children. Within six-eight sessions with the mediator (during which we had some conflict), my partner and I were able to agree to a parenting agreement, as well as a financial settlement – out of court.

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    Recovering from divorce.

    SAHMs are one of the most singularly capable human beings on the planet. Talented, industrious and caring, SAHMs are consummate managers of their kids’ lives, family life, community and school affairs — and often the finances and household upkeep. I often say that SAHMs are CEOS, CFOS, and COOs. That was me. Being my kids Mom was my job; it was how I defined my place in the world. To then be faced with the reality that my kids were no longer under my control 24/7/365 was threatening.

    But as I look back, I realized that at some point I knew I could muster the capacity to manage the divorce. At first, of course, I just coped. Healing would come later. When you’re “coping,” you’re mostly on high alert – and occasionally on your last nerve. It’s like when you have a gravely sick child. You just do the things you need to do that absolutely must get done, without thinking about much else.

    During the process of divorce, I often felt like I was drowning in fear or sadness or simply overwhelmed. So I gave myself permission to only take on what I needed to take on each day. Some days it was navigating the parenting agreement. Others, it was working with my ex to figure out how to set up the kids’ bedrooms in his new house. Always, when my kids were home with me, meeting their needs as best I could was what I focused on.

    There were many days when all I could do was sit with the profound loss.

    Forget about losing weight. Or learning a new language or anything else you had been doing pre-divorce. This is survival time. But eventually, I got through it. You will, too. The beginning of healing came once I was out of crisis mode and had the time and space to look to the future. My future.

    And for the first time in a long time, I saw that one was available to me. The pain wasn’t entirely over, but enough time had passed and hurdles crossed that I had perspective.

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    What did “healing” from divorce look like for me… and what might it look like for you?

    • It was important to finally come to peace with my decision. To reconcile that ending my marriage was indeed the right choice.
    • I solidified and stayed in touch with my network of support.
    • I survived all the post-divorce “firsts” we inevitably must pass through: First weekend alone in the house. First wedding anniversary. First major holiday without the family all together. First time my husband took the kids on vacation without me.
    • I learned to leverage my time without kids to manage all the necessary household tasks so that when my kids were with me I could be more present and engaged.
    • I took advantage of time for myself to have dinner with friends…take an extra exercise class… pursue a hobby or other interests.

    Sometimes the healing process brings us face-to-face with lost opportunities. I’ve coached some SAHMs in my practice who look back and wish they had done things differently. The two things I hear most often are, “I wish I would have left the marriage sooner.” And “I wish I would have had more confidence in myself and believed I would come out the other side.” As regrets go, those aren’t too bad. While I don’t necessarily advocate for divorce as a self-help method, I found it to be exactly that.

    For me, there were a lot of positive things about divorce. Several key areas of growth have been particularly illuminating:

    Mom bests “SUPERMOM.”

    I saw in retrospect that my pre-divorce “Supermom” persona actually did my kids a disservice. During the divorce, there were days when I was barely keeping myself from drowning, much less able to ensure my kids were happily afloat. But afterwards, I realized that my kids were actually much more capable than I had given them credit for. Because I wasn’t able to super-manage every aspect of their lives, they had the space they needed to learn a few things on their own. Bottom-line, divorce was a big lesson in terms of getting out of my growing kids’ way. The more autonomy, independence and responsibility I gave them, the more they blossomed.

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    Divorce takes two.

    All of us eventually need to accept our role in the demise of our marriages. There are outliers, of course, but generally speaking, no single spouse is wholly responsible for a successful marriage. And no one spouse is wholly accountable for its end. I had always been a strong, independent, positive and active person, but in my marriage, I so sublimated my needs that I barely recognized myself. Once on the other side, I began to believe that I deserved to have a husband who is excited to see me at the end of every day, and who is proud of me and of what I do.

    You’re stronger than you think!

    It’s easy to underestimate one’s resilience when you’re carrying around a crushing boulder on your back. Divorce = loss; there’s no way around it. And losses must be mourned. But eventually, the spark of life returns, and you begin to claim your life once again. In my case, I learned not only was I resilient, but I surprised myself by being bigger, faster and stronger today than I ever was before!

    Professionally, there are second acts.

    In today’s society, the majority of SAHMs are educated and working in a professional capacity before deciding to stay home with young children. After divorce or once your kids are older, you have a huge opportunity to reinvent yourself professionally. If you don’t want to or don’t need to work, there’s so much one can do philanthropically to stay engaged. And there are myriad professional networks for women, which means you never have to go it alone. For me, my professional exploration led me to pursue a new career as a parenting coach, which dovetails perfectly with my professional background, experience – and passion for parenting. A friend of mine, starting with a single Instagram account where she published food-related pics and commentary, eventually became a fulltime blogger and has established herself as a thought leader in her field.

    Getting comfortable being alone is critical to healing.

    It can be tempting, post-divorce, to jump into dating too soon. After all, imagining to once again feel affirmed and sexy and lovable can be seductive. But here’s some dating advice for women after divorce: it’s unhealthy to jump in it too quickly. Give yourself time to get your emotional house in order. Make your kids your priority.

    Take time to get reacquainted with the person you’re becoming.

    While there isn’t a set time limit, a good rule of thumb is to wait about a year post divorce to start dating. Once you do, keep him (them) from your kids until you and a partner are serious. Don’t get caught in the trap of thinking you should be honest with your kids about everything. Most kids, especially pre-adolescent ones, aren’t developmentally ready to think of Mommy as a sexual being. And what if your ex-partner jumps into dating immediately? You might be able to obviate it a bit by including certain constraints in your parenting agreement (e.g., no third parties will sleep at the house when the kids are there.) But as you know, the only person whose behavior we can control is our own.

    I’m not saying the road to divorce was easy for me – or that it will be easy for you. But I can say with full and unbridled confidence that with the right help and support, you will make it to the other side, and be a better person for the journey.

    If parenting concerns arise as you go through this process, I’d be happy to discuss them with you. I can be reached at danahirtparenting.com.

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    Lay the groundwork for a peaceful
    divorce

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  • Who Gets the House in Divorce? The 11 Factors That Determine Home Ownership

    Who Gets the House in Divorce? The 11 Factors That Determine Home Ownership

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    • Who gets the house in a divorce is not an easy question to answer.
    • The answer depends on a number of factors including: whether it’s marital or separate property, what your child-custody arrangement looks like, and who can afford it.
    • Because there’s no clear cut answer to the question, negotiation is the best way to resolve this critically important issue – and that’s what mediation is all about.

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    As someone who watched my own parents battle through the courts over assets like the house I grew up in, I know firsthand how emotional and overwhelming the decision of who get the house in a divorce can be. But I also know, through my work as a mediator, that there’s a better way to handle this important choice – one that keeps you in control and helps you find solutions that work for everyone involved.

    Your family residence isn’t just another item to check off your property distribution list. It’s where your children took their first steps, where you’ve celebrated countless holidays, and often represents your largest financial investment. Through mediation, you and your spouse can work together to create arrangements that honor both these precious memories and your practical needs for the future.

    Let’s take a look at what you need to know to answer this question, and reach agreement on this critical piece of your divorce settlement.

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    Understanding your state’s property division framework

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    Before we dive into specific solutions and examples, let’s talk about how property division typically works. While state laws do provide a framework, the beauty of mediation is that it gives you and your spouse the flexibility to create solutions that work best for your unique situation. Think of these laws as a starting point for our conversations, not rigid rules that must dictate your decisions.

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    Equitable distribution states

    In states like New Jersey, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania, we work within a concept known as “fair and equitable distribution.” But “fair” doesn’t always mean “equal” when it comes to dividing your marital estate. This actually gives us more room in mediation to explore creative solutions that work for both of you.

    For example, I recently worked with a couple where one spouse (the wife and primary caregiver, age 50) desperately wanted to keep their family home for the children’s stability. Through mediation, we found a way to balance this by having her trade a share of other marital assets of similar value by letting her spouse (the husband, age 63) keep his retirement accounts. The final property settlement worked beautifully for both parties because we focused on what mattered most to each of them.

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    Community property states

    Even in community property states like California and Washington, where the law typically aims for a 50-50 split of marital assets, you still have plenty of room for creativity in mediation to divide property fairly as you both see fit. While these states view property acquired during marriage as belonging equally to both spouses, you can be flexible about what your settlement ultimately looks like, even if it’s not 50-50.

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    While mediation keeps you in control of decisions about your family residence, having the right professional support team can make a significant difference. Think of it this way: as your mediator, I help you and your spouse communicate and explore options, while these other professionals provide specialized expertise to support and execute your decisions.

    For example, while in mediation we’ll take a deep dive into your monthly spending through a comprehensive budgeting exercise, examining what it costs to run the former marital home post-divorce, you may wish to work with a financial advisor to understand how different housing choices might affect your long-term financial stability. For example, would renting and taking the proceeds from sale and investing them, be a better option than keeping the home?

    If you do decide to keep the house, an experienced attorneys can ensure the proper execution of your agreement, including preparing documents like a quitclaim deed to protect your legal rights and transfer the ownership of the home exclusive to one of you. And a CPA can help you understand tax implications of different arrangements, like property taxes or mortgage interest deductions, as well as if you’ll owe any capital gains on the sale when the day comes you no longer wish to live in the house.

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    Let’s now talk about the difference between marital property and separate property when it comes to your home. Understanding this distinction helps us have more productive conversations about fair solutions.

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    When your home is marital property

    Most homes purchased during marriage become marital property, meaning both spouses have developed an interest in the property’s value. Even if only one spouse’s name appears on the deed, your shared contributions – both financial and non-financial – have likely enhanced the property’s worth. In mediation, we look at the whole picture to develop fair solutions for dividing this important asset regardless who owns it “on paper.”

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    Understanding separate property claims

    Sometimes, one spouse brings a home into the marriage as separate property. But the lines between separate and marital property often blur over time, especially when marital funds pay for mortgage payments or home improvements. Some states like California even have a special way of calculating the value of what the non-owning spouse contributed known as a Moore Marsden Calculation.

    During our mediation sessions, we’ll carefully consider how shared contributions might have affected each spouse’s share of property rights and work to come to an agreement that meets the best interests of you and your spouse.

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    Let’s talk about a practical reality that often influences housing decisions: your ability to handle ongoing mortgage payments and other expenses. Through mediation, we can develop financial plans that work not just today, but well into your future by examining what it truly takes for one of you to keep the house running after you go your separate ways.

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    Evaluating current mortgage responsibilities

    Together, we’ll look at your current mortgage structure and explore your options moving forward. I find that many couples discover solutions they hadn’t considered once we lay out all the possibilities – from loan assumption to refinancing that provides one spouse’s share of equity.

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    Planning for future financial stability

    Creating sustainable agreements means looking beyond just the mortgage payments. We’ll discuss all housing-related expenses – property taxes, maintenance costs, insurance, and other expenses – to ensure whoever keeps the house can manage it comfortably long-term. I’ve seen too many couples focus only on the mortgage, only to struggle with these other costs later. Hot water heaters and HVAC units seem to breakdown at the most inconvenient times and we’ll want to plan for that.

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    Considering children’s needs

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    When children are involved, decisions about the family home become even more nuanced. As someone who experienced my parents’ divorce as a teenager, I’m particularly sensitive to how housing decisions affect children’s well-being.

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    Creating child-centered solutions

    During our mediation sessions, we’ll carefully consider how different housing arrangements might affect your children’s daily lives. While the custodial parent’s housing needs are important, we work to find solutions that support both parents’ relationships with their children. If one of you remains in the home, while the other is sleeping on a friends couch, that’s certainly going to impact each of your relationships with the kids.

    I’ve seen families develop some wonderfully creative arrangements through mediation. Some couples agree to a deferred sale until their children reach certain milestones. Others find ways to maintain the family home as a stable base while creating comfortable separate spaces for both parents in the form of a nesting plan.

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    When one spouse keeps the family home, we need to think carefully about protecting everyone’s financial future. I’ve seen how unprotected interests can lead to problems down the road – something I witnessed in my own parents’ divorce. For example, my mother chose to keep the house and forgo her share of my father’s pension. Which meant she had to work until long after normal retirement age. Through mediation, we can develop comprehensive agreements that provide security and clarity for both of you so you can make decisions with both eyes wide open.

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    Creating fair compensation arrangements

    If one spouse will keep the home, we’ll explore various ways to ensure the other spouse’s share is protected. This might mean offsetting the home’s value against other marital assets, creating a structured buyout plan, or developing agreements about future sale proceeds. The key is finding an approach that feels fair to both of you and provides financial stability moving forward.

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    Addressing future liability concerns

    One thing I always emphasize in my mediations is the importance of clear agreements about ongoing financial responsibilities. If one spouse keeps the house, we’ll discuss options for removing the other spouse’s name from the mortgage through refinancing. If that’s not immediately possible, we’ll create strong protections until it can be accomplished. Remember – the bank doesn’t care you got divorced. They just want their money, and if both of your names are on the mortgage, both of you are going to get a call if a payment is past due.

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    Home improvements and property value

    In addition to the equity available in the home, we’ll also look at other factors such as how to account for those improvements you’ve made to your home over the years. Maybe one of you did significant renovation work and paid for all materials, or you both contributed to major upgrades. Understanding these contributions helps us develop fair approaches to dividing the increased value these improvements created. There’s more to determining each party’s fair share than simply taking the net proceeds from sale and dividing them.

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    Deferred sale options

    Sometimes, making an immediate decision about the family home isn’t what’s best for your family. Through mediation, we can explore deferred sale arrangements that give everyone time to adjust. For instance, I recently worked with a couple who agreed to allow the wife and children remain in the home post-divorce until their youngest child, a sophomore in high school, graduated. Then at that time, the wife could either refinance the home exclusively in her name and provide husband with his share of the equity, or the home would be sold and they would share the proceeds equally.

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    Making co-ownership work

    While many couples prefer a clean break and want to establish separate residences, others find that living together and co-owning the family home after divorce makes sense for their situation. I recently worked with a couple whose daughter was a freshman in high school and due to the the high-cost of living in their area, they decided to remain cohabitating until she graduated from high school. Sharing in all costs to own and operate the home equally. Upon the daughter’s graduation the home would be sold and they would share the proceeds with the wife retaining 60% and the husband, 40%.

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    Outline the important details

    If you’re considering either of these options, agreeing upfront to what will happen moving forward is key. In mediation, we’ll develop detailed agreements that make co-ownership manageable and help prevent future conflicts. This includes creating clear protocols for sharing expenses, making decisions about repairs, and planning for eventual sale or buyout. We can even include regular review periods to see if things are working as intended, or if a sale should be considered.

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    Working with market conditions

    The real estate market will influence your options, but through mediation, we can develop flexible agreements that work regardless of market conditions. I’ll help you create arrangements that protect both parties’ interests whether property values rise or fall, including provisions for sharing unusual appreciation or loss if the house sells within a certain timeframe.

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    Whether keeping or leaving the family home, you both deserve the opportunity for a fresh start after divorce. In our mediation sessions, we’ll explore how different housing arrangements might support each of your goals for the future. This might include discussing how either spouse could build new credit histories, establish independent financial stability, or create new living spaces that support your post-divorce lifestyle.

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    As someone who watched my own parents struggle with their divorce, I understand the deep emotional significance your family home carries. During mediation, we create a space where you can acknowledge these feelings while staying focused on practical solutions. I’ve found that when couples understand each other’s emotional connections to the home, they often become more flexible in exploring various options.

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    The best property settlements look beyond just today’s needs. Through mediation, we work to create agreements that can stand the test of time. We’ll consider how life changes might affect your housing arrangement and build in appropriate flexibility to address future circumstances – whether that’s a job change, remarriage, or retirement.

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    Remember, deciding what happens to your house doesn’t have to become a source of conflict or courtroom drama. Through mediation, you and your spouse can work together to find solutions that serve everyone’s interests. While these discussions may feel challenging now, I’ve helped hundreds of couples successfully navigate this decision by staying focused on practical solutions and remaining open to creative possibilities.

    The key is taking time to understand all your options while keeping communication productive and focused on solutions. Whether you ultimately decide to sell the house, arrange a buyout, or create some other arrangement, making this decision through mediation helps ensure that both parties’ needs are considered and respected.

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  • How To Prepare For Divorce as a Man: Strategic Advice for Men from a Veteran Mediator

    How To Prepare For Divorce as a Man: Strategic Advice for Men from a Veteran Mediator

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    Divorce advice for men can feel overwhelming. With friends, family, and co-workers all telling you what they think you should do. And while they mean well, they’re not you.

    As a divorce professional, I’ve had a front-row seat to countless divorces over the years. And I can tell you with certainty there are things a man can do – and does do – that significantly improves how his divorce plays out from start to finish.

    So, in this post, I not only share some good divorce advice for men, but some tips on how to prepare for divorce as a man, as in my experience, it is different than it is for a woman. This is not legal advice, but rather, actionable divorce tips culled from thousands of hours of negotiations conducted over the past few decades, interviews with therapists and coaches, and real-life stories from other divorced men.

    It is my hope that if you follow these divorce tips, you’ll increase your ability to keep your divorce amicable, efficient, child focused and cost-effective. Let’s get to it!

    Whether you’re the initiator of the divorce, or on the receiving end of the news, the things you do before your divorce is underway will set the foundation for the entire divorce process.

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    Pre-divorce advice for men seeking divorce:

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    Tell your wife you want a divorce in a respectful way

    When it comes to telling your spouse you want a divorce, there is a right way and a wrong way. Screaming “I want a divorce!” during an intense argument while the kids are in the next room is not exactly ideal. A better way is to have a planned conversation when the kids are not present.

    If you’re unsure of how best to have this conversation, consider working with a therapist. This way you can practice what you’ll say and be prepared for the possible reactions you might get from your wife when you do.

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    Give your wife time to mentally process the divorce news

    If you are action-oriented, like so many other men, you might want to hire a divorce mediator or family law attorney right away to get the ball rolling as quickly as possible. But this is a situation where patience is a virtue as your wife may be in shock from the news. So don’t pressure her into action right away.

    Give her space to process and accept/make peace with your decision. She’ll (hopefully) come around in her own time – even if it’s not on your timetable.

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    Reassure your wife your decision was made slowly and carefully

    One of the questions your partner might ask during the conversation is, “Can we save our marriage?” But most individuals contemplate divorce for more than two years before making the decision to proceed. So, if that sounds like you, you’ve obviously been scrutinizing over this major decision for a very long time.

    If you know for certain the marriage is over, be honest and let her know there’s nothing she can do to change your mind. But she can choose the way she shows up and participates in the divorce process.

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    Enlist a marriage and family therapist or couples counselor to help you break the news

    Telling your spouse you want a divorce is not an easy conversation to have. Especially if you’ve never been through one before. But the good news is, you don’t have to do it alone.

    If you’ve been seeing a therapist, consider inviting your wife to your next session to have this difficult talk in person. Or if you’ve been in couples counseling, have the conversation there. Doing so can provide a safe space to share your feelings, and for both of you get the emotional support you need.

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    Advice for men facing divorce (on the receiving end):

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    Don’t ignore your wife’s desire to divorce you

    Regardless of what transpired in your relationship, the fact is, it takes two people to be married, but only one person to end it. So, if your wife wants a divorce, you’re getting a divorce. It just becomes a matter of how easy or difficult you choose to make it on yourself, her, and your children.

    Rather than burying your head in the sand, acknowledge the reality of the situation. Choose to take part in selecting your divorce professional, and actively take part in your divorce negotiations.

    When you do, you can control your future, and what your settlement looks like, rather than having it dictated to you by a judge in family court.

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    Don’t try to talk your wife out of divorce

    When your spouse tells you she wants a divorce, you might try to convince her that it makes no sense. You may say things like:

    • “It’s not a good time,”
    • “I’m busy at work,”
    • “If I move out, it’ll be expensive,”
    • “It’s better to stay together for the kids.”

    But there’s never a good time to get a divorce. It’s not cheaper to stay together if you wind up hiring a divorce attorney and litigating, wiping out your finances and house in the process.

    And just because your kids don’t say anything, they know things aren’t right. For the sake of their emotional health, and yours, it’s best to move forward and demonstrate to your children that despite your differences, you can still behave like adults and put their needs first.

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    Lower your emotional reactivity

    When reacting to the news that your wife wants to end your marriage, you might be tempted to let anger guide your decisions, retain a “pit bull” divorce lawyer who promises “aggressive representation,” and send the message “the gloves are off.” But the better way is to remain calm, suggest using a more peaceful option such as divorce mediation and send the message you want what’s best for both of you, and your children.

    Don’t forget, you’re still going to be co-parents for many years to come. For the sake of the well being of your kids, do your best to avoid conflict, so you can to preserve your relationship as “mom and dad.”

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    Do your research and get educated about the divorce process

    Whether you’re the initiator or recipient, the first thing I suggest when preparing for divorce as a man is to learn how the divorce process works, and what the available options for divorce are. Doing so will allow you to make informed choices and select the option best for your situation.

    Don’t just assume you need to “lawyer up,” lace up the gloves, and enter the ring! Most men I work with assume they need a hire a divorce lawyer so they don’t get shortchanged in their parenting plan, or pay too much in spousal maintenance. But that may not be the best strategy so choose wisely.

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    Avoid trying to resolve the issues on your own

    When preparing for a divorce as a man, it’s natural to want to plan for the future, so you may want to start hashing things out now with your soon-to-be-ex on things like alimony, child custody, child support, dividing marital assets, etc. But be careful because that can backfire. Unless you’re a divorce expert or attorney, how do you know what a fair divorce settlement looks like? Or how support works in your state? Or what the tax implications of certain decisions might be?

    If you read something on the Internet, you can’t be sure it’s accurate or true. Or that it’s even relevant in your situation. It’s better to wait until you’ve chosen a divorce professional to help and guide you through resolving all the required issues based on your situational complexities.

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    If possible, mediate and choose a divorce mediator together

    If you’ve already explored the options for divorce, then you know mediation allows you to end your marriage in less time, with less stress, and at a lower cost than lawyer-led contested divorce proceedings. If your wife is willing to mediate, involve her in choosing the mediator since one professional will be working for both of you, and you both need to feel comfortable.

    And if for some reason you can’t (or she won’t) mediate, consider an attorney experienced in collaborative divorce to try to reduce the chances of getting to full blown litigation.

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    Divorce advice for men once the divorce is underway:

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    Once your divorce has begun, it can be tempting to throw all kindness out the window. Follow my divorce advice below, and you’ll be surprised at how well your proceeding can go, and how amicable your divorce can be.

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    Engage in a good faith divorce negotiation

    When thinking about how to prepare for divorce as a man, some guys expect their divorce to be a battle. So, they prepare by withholding documents, changing passwords, and being as uncooperative as possible. Those divorces cost a fortune, take years to complete, destroy relationships, and ruin children’s lives.

    My advice to men is to engage in a good faith divorce negotiation. One in which you share information, answer questions honestly and put your kids first. Doing so will allow you to move through your divorce in less time, at a lower cost, and allow you to both be good co-parents to your kids.

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    Treat your divorce like a business negotiation

    When negotiating a business deal, you don’t let your emotions get in the way. You simply come to the best agreement you can, based on the data as well as the circumstances you find yourself in.

    You may not like the people you do business with (or the woman who will soon be your ex) but the goal in business and divorce can be the same depending on how you look at it. Make a deal so you can move forward.

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    Don’t hide assets or move money

    If you were the primary breadwinner, as you prepare for divorce as a man, you might be tempted to hide assets or move money to “protect what’s yours” or ensure you get your “fair share.” That would be a tremendously bad idea. Sure, you might think you’re being clever, but lawyers and judges are clever, too. If they think something fishy is going on, they’ll subpoena documents, or bring in a forensic accountant to audit you.

    The bottom line is: all will be revealed in the end. It’s just a matter of how long it will take and how much it will ultimately cost you. So don’t hide assets or move money.

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    Don’t cut your wife off financially

    Some men believe when their divorce begins, they and their wives are now two separate financial entities. So, they close their wives’ credit cards, remove them from their health insurance, and take whatever steps they believe are necessary to separate their lives.

    The truth is, from a legal perspective you’re not divorced at this point. You’re still married. It may sound obvious, but you’d be surprised at how many men don’t understand this. So don’t make any moves, financial or otherwise, until you’ve reached the final terms of your settlement.

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    Don’t quit your job just to try to avoid having to pay child support or alimony

    No one likes paying it. But quitting your job to avoid paying child support and/or alimony is not only a bad idea, it’s just plain selfish. If you do quit your job to avoid paying support, you’re sending a very strong message to your ex-wife and children that a man doesn’t have to follow through with his responsibilities. That he can bend the rules to his liking even if it’s unethical, immoral, or illegal. And that he doesn’t have to consider how his actions will negatively impact others despite the consequences.

    Nobody likes that guy, so don’t be him. Instead, do the right thing and pay support if you’re obligated to do so.

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    Avoid DIY divorce

    Despite the low price, a do-it-yourself divorce is difficult. And those mistakes can wind up costing you a lot more in the end.

    Some men try and do their own divorce because they don’t want to go broke in litigation or a protracted custody battle – which makes perfect sense. But there are more peaceful options for divorce that are less costly and can deliver the help and guidance you need to ensure your divorce case is handled properly.

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    Don’t make financial commitments before your divorce begins

    As problem solvers who don’t like uncertainty, some men when preparing for divorce want to develop an entire financial plan. Coming to agreements on child support payments, spousal support, and property division before their divorce negotiations begin. They do this without fully understanding what the financial ramifications of those decisions will be for everyone involved. Only later, after a full exchange of information, the completion of budgets and balance sheets, and extensive negotiations, do they realize they want to change their mind.

    My divorce advice for men is to wait until all cards are on the table to come to an agreement. If you make agreements beforehand that aren’t in your best interest, and you want to renegotiate, your wife will feel betrayed, and things will take longer (and cost more) than had you waited in the first place.

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    Don’t punish your wife if you both agreed she would be a stay-at-home-mom

    There’s a tendency for some husbands of stay-at-home moms to have a “my money” mentality. Even though both spouses decided together that she would give up her career to raise the kids. What these men fail to realize is, they likely couldn’t have gotten to where they are in their career without their wife taking care of the house and family.

    Smart men understand that both partners played an important role in the marriage. One worked outside the home, while the other worked inside the home.

    My advice is to do everything you can to ensure your agreement is fair, and you both have enough to live. Recognize it will take your wife time to get back into the workforce. And, she may never earn as much as you do and need financial support for quite some time.

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    Make your children your number one priority

    It takes more than just saying you’ll put your kids first in a divorce. It takes spending quality time with your children. Creating a comfortable home for them to visit and sleepover at.

    Prioritizing their needs and making decisions that are in their best interests. And ensuring they don’t become the economic victims of your divorce, even if it means paying more child support than the minimum required.

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    Divorce advice for men to manage their emotions:

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    Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your marriage

    For some men, the only divorce advice they get as they prepare for divorce is “man up and move on.” With friends and family never considering how sad, lonely, angry, or depressed they might be. Regardless of who initiated divorce, it’s a tremendous loss, and it’s OK to grieve that loss – just as you would do for the death of a loved one.

    Acknowledge that things are not OK right now, but recognize these feelings are temporary. Appreciate what you had and not what you lost. Enlist the help of a professional to work through your feelings and get back on your feet.

    Whether you take baby steps or rush full-tilt forward, realize every divorced man has his own timeline for healing – and that’s normal.

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    You can’t control others, but you can control yourself

    Given the intense emotions that accompany it, divorce can easily cause a man to react to every question, comment, or criticism directed toward him. Instead of engaging in this damaging, lose-lose cycle of behavior, try the following tips to rise above the drama:

    • Learn to lower your emotional reactivity. “Diaphragmatic breathing” is what the cool kids call it today, but counting to 10 like we did when we were young, works, too.
    • Do your best to deflect invasive comments from others about your divorce. Instead, say “I’d rather talk about something else.”
    • Fight the urge to defend your position. Instead, say “Well that’s the way I see things, so I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.”
    • Don’t disparage your wife on social media. Avoid commenting on her posts, and posting pictures of your new life until the dust has settled.

    You can’t control how others will react to you and the news of your divorce. But you can choose how you react to them – and that’s all you need to worry about.

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    Take good care of yourself during divorce

    Some men have never taken care of themselves in a holistic way. Instead, they power through the current task at hand and ignore the things they simply don’t have time for. Well, guess what? When it comes to how to cope with divorce as a man, self-care is critical.

    Support yourself emotionally by asking for and accepting help. Build a support system of trusted family and friends. Consider joining a divorce support group. And find a good therapist.

    Take care of yourself physically by maintaining healthy eating habits. Exercise or engage in other physical activities. And avoid excessive alcohol consumption. Take care of your mental health. Try meditating. Learn a new skill or pursue a new hobby. And socialize!

    It’s OK to let yourself have fun, despite mourning the loss of your relationship.

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    Take care of your children, too

    When my mother and father were going through their divorce, they broke every rule about what not to do. Epic arguments, giving each other the silent treatment for months and putting me in the middle by asking me to take sides. And while my father didn’t have the benefit of this blog post, you do, so let me make it easy for you.

    • Don’t badmouth your wife in front of your kids.
    • Don’t put them in the middle by asking them to take sides.
    • And keep the conflict away from them.

    I know it sounds simple, but you’d be surprised at how many people fail to realize the damage that failing to follow these things can do.

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    Don’t jump into a new relationship too quickly

    In an effort to avoid the loneliness a man can feel during a divorce (and that is normal,) you may be tempted to jump into a new relationship quickly. But there will be plenty of time for that.

    Instead, my advice is to slow yourself down and take this time to heal and recover from your divorce. Work with a professional to get to the root of why your marriage failed, so you can make sure it won’t happen again in your next relationship.

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    There you have it! Some actionable divorce tips for men.

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    I hope your main takeaway from this advice for men going through divorce is that your choices will truly make all the difference in the impact this significant life event will have on you, your finances and your child or children.

    And now you can make some smart ones!

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    You and your spouse were partners. And during your marriage, worked hard to achieve your financial goals and enjoy a comfortable lifestyle.

    But now that you’re facing the end of your marriage, you need to understand more about how are assets divided in a divorce and how who gets what is determined.

    For many couples getting a divorce, splitting assets (and debt) is one of the most difficult issues to resolve because the general rule is to ensure everything is divided fairly. But what does that even mean?

    To help you understand what you can do to protect your assets and make sure they don’t wind up wasted on a contested divorce in court or outrageous attorney fees, in this post we’ll cover:

    • The differences between separate property and marital property, and how property can change from one form to another and sometimes be both;
    • How dividing assets in divorce depends on the state which you live in;
    • How the method you use to end your marriage can also significantly impact how the division of your marital estate will take place;
    • And how to maintain control over your divorce asset split

    * This post is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice, financial advice, or counsel.

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    Assets divided in a divorce are typically marital property, not separate property

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    Generally speaking, assets are either marital property or separate property.

    • Marital property typically includes: any assets acquired by either spouse during the marriage, regardless of who made the purchase, or whose name is on the title.
    • Separate property typically includes:  any asset owned by either spouse prior to the marriage, an inheritance either spouse received prior to or during the marriage, personal property or gifts given from one spouse to the other spouse, or received from others, and proceeds received for pain and suffering in a personal injury lawsuit.

    When it comes to dividing assets in a divorce, marital property are considered divorce assets, whereas non marital assets are considered a spouse’s separate property. In my experience, the longer a couple is married, the less of a chance they have both separate and marital property as over time, everything becomes commingled. But like everything, there can be exceptions as you’ll soon learn.

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    Separate property can be converted into marital property

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    Let’s say you owned real property such as a home prior to the marriage and after you got married, you added your spouse to the title so you could be co-owners. And used joint funds to make the mortgage payments moving forward. In this example, you converted separate property into marital property. Or you each had individual checking accounts before you got married, then combined them into one joint account. That commingled property is now also considered marital property. And both the house and the checking accounts would be subject to negotiation between you during your divorce.

    Incidentally the opposite is also true – you can convert marital property to separate property if you and your spouse both agree in writing. But that’s another post for another day.

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    Some divorce assets can be both marital and separate property

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    Let’s say when you and your spouse first started your current jobs you were both single. You each enrolled in your company’s 401(k) plan, and for the next 6 years you and your spouse contributed to your respective accounts. And, after you got married, you still continued to contribute to those very same accounts.

    Flash forward 15 years – and you and your spouse are divorcing. In this example, your retirement plans – the 401(k)s – are both separate property and marital property. So in theory, a portion of each of your respective retirement plans would be retained by only one spouse, and a portion would be subject to distribution between you, with the other spouse possibly receiving a share of your investment account, or vice versa.

    – Dividing property that is both separate and marital is a complex topic outside the scope of this post.

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    Separate assets that appreciate during the marriage

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    What happens if you or your spouse owned a rental property prior to marriage that was completely self-sustaining – meaning, no marital funds were used for its management or upkeep. Then, at the time of your divorce, it had doubled in value?

    If the appreciation in the value of the house was due to market forces outside your control (passive), then that appreciation is most likely considered non marital property. But if the rental property increased in value because you both spent your free time renovating and improving it, then possibly yes, that growth could be considered marital.

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    How marital assets and marital debts are divided is different in a community property state versus an equitable distribution state

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    Here in the United States, dividing assets and debts in a divorce follows one of two different methodologies: either Equitable Distribution or Community Property Division. In Community Property states like California and Washington state, both spouses are generally considered equal owners of all marital property and debts. So the going in supposition is generally a 50-50 split. Unless the parties otherwise mutually agree in writing.

    Whereas in Equitable Distribution states like New JerseyNew YorkIllinois, and Pennsylvania, there should be a “fair division” of a couple’s marital property and debt – but not necessarily equally.

    So as you can see, state law where you live is one of the factors that can play a role in how the financial aspects of your divorce are handled. But there’s more to it than that.

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    The method you use to end your marriage will also significantly impact your property agreements

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    Regardless of whether you live in a community property state or an equitable distribution state, you and your spouse actually have a lot of flexibility to come to a divorce agreement you both find fair. Provided you pursue an uncontested divorce.

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    If you can work together during your divorce proceedings, and engage in direct negotiations, you can maintain control over the terms of your property settlement.

    But if you can’t (or refuse to) work together, it will be very difficult, if not impossible, to predict the outcome of how your marital property (and debt) will be divided. Because you’ll each need to hire your own divorce attorney to argue on your behalf.

    If they can’t help you and your spouse come to agreement, you’ll have no choice but to battle it out in family law court. Where judges divide marital property for you. And unfortunately, there’s a good chance neither of you will wind up with a property settlement you find fair or that meets your needs or interests.

    That’s why it’s better to work with your spouse to negotiate an equitable property division – out of court.

    Doing so allows you and your spouse to remain in complete control of how any marital assets obtained, or joint debts acquired, are divided. Even if it’s not 50-50.

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    What if you and your spouse want to maintain control of the division of your assets and debts, but you don’t understand the complexities of your situation?

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    Especially because not all assets and liabilities are the same. Some may be pre-tax like retirement benefits, while others are post-tax like checking accounts. Some may change in value frequently (such as retirement accounts,) while others are quite static. In other words, what may appear as a fair property division on the surface doesn’t necessarily mean it is. And even if it was, each of you will have a different definition of what’s fair depending on your wants, needs, and interests.

    In situations like these you can involve a financial advisor to help you understand the intricacies of your situation, or work with a divorce mediator with a financial background.

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    What if you’re willing to work together to determine your asset split, but don’t communicate effectively or get along?

    This is all very normal (and common,) given the circumstances. And as you’ve learned, there are many complexities surrounding divorce and asset division – so it’s often way too difficult for a divorcing couple to try to resolve on their own.

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    Or you don’t understand the how the actual tactical division works?

    Some joint property such as furniture or bank accounts are easier to divide. You each take what you want (and have agreed to,) and that’s that. While other property is far more difficult to divide. Take for example, a 401(k) or corporate pension plan. Did you know they require a document known as a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO for short) to be drafted by an attorney, signed off by a judge, and executed by a plan administrator, before each of you can receive your share? And if you fail to do this properly, there are significant tax consequences and penalties you’ll incur?

    As you can see by this example (and there are many more like it) there is far more& to the distribution of assets in divorce than just taking what you’ve each agreed to take, and walking away. How and when each asset is divided differs from couples to couple, and item to item.

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    That’s why mediation is an ideal solution for dividing assets in a divorce

    With the help of a skilled mediator with a financial acumen like me, you can retain control of your property settlement and at the same time, avoid making costly and significant mistakes in this complicated part of the divorce process. And you and your spouse can successfully reach an agreement you both agree is a fair and equitable division – instead of letting your future be decided by lawyers or a judge in court.

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    Key takeaways

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    • During a divorce, assets are generally classified as either marital property (acquired during marriage) or separate property (owned before marriage or received as inheritance/gifts). This difference plays a crucial role in determining how assets are divided.
    • Separate property can transform into marital property through actions like combining accounts or adding a spouse’s name to a title. This process, known as commingling, becomes more common the longer a couple is married.
    • Some assets, like retirement accounts started before marriage but continued during marriage, can be both separate and marital property at the same time. This creates a more complex situation that requires careful consideration.
    • The state you live in significantly impacts how assets are divided. Community property states typically split marital assets 50-50, while equitable distribution states aim for a “fair” division that may not be equal.
    • Working together through mediation or collaborative divorce gives couples more control over their property division compared to letting a judge decide.
    • Some assets are more complicated to divide than others. For example, retirement accounts require special legal documents (QDROs) and professional assistance to split properly, while bank accounts can be divided more simply.
    • The fairness of asset division isn’t just about splitting things equally – it’s important to consider whether assets are pre-tax or post-tax, and whether their values might change over time.

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    Lay the groundwork for a peaceful
    divorce

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  • Divorce Cost Comparison: Real Numbers from 5 Different Options

    Divorce Cost Comparison: Real Numbers from 5 Different Options

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    The cost of divorce can be very expensive if you’re not careful.

    It can bankrupt families. Ruin lives. And steal your children’s futures. So it’s normal to wonder how much is a divorce and what are your options for getting one before you file any divorce papers.

    In this post we’ll take a look at the 5 factors that impact how much a divorce costs. And explain that while it might be tempting to choose the lowest cost option, doing do might not be best for your situation and can ultimately wind up costing you more in the end.

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    5 Main factors that contribute to how much a divorce costs

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    There are five main factors that impact the cost of getting a divorce for couples. They are:

    1. The complexities of your case;
    2. The level of conflict between you and your soon-to-be ex;
    3. The divorce option and/or divorce professional you choose;
    4. Costs necessitated by the state you live in, and/or the terms of your negotiated divorce agreement;
    5. Court fee / divorce paperwork

    When asking, “How much does it cost for a divorce?” it’s important that you recognize that divorces are like snowflakes and no two are exactly alike.

    The divorce process is complicated and there are many issues that will affect not only the average divorce cost, but also how long the process will take and how stressful the case will ultimately be on the divorcing couple and their child or children.

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    1. How much does a divorce cost? It depends on the complexities of your case:

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    One thing that can determine divorce cost is the complexity of your situation. Generally speaking, the more complex a case is, the more divorce will cost. There are many factors that can add to the complexity of your divorce case.

    Here are just a few:

    • The duration of your marriage: Are you divorcing after a short-term marriage of 5 years or less? Or are you divorcing after 20 years or more?
    • Do you and your husband or wife have children together in the marriage? And are those children minors?
    • Do you and your spouse have jointly owned assets and/or debts?
    • Are there significant differences in your incomes?
    • Do one or both of you have variability in your income?
    • Are either/both of you self-employed or divorcing with a business involved?
    • Are one or both of you unemployed?
    • Is there domestic violence, substance abuse or incarceration?

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    2. How much does it cost to get a divorce? It depends on the level of conflict between you and your soon-to-be ex:

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    • What, if any, level of trust exists between the two of you?

    Are you both willing to be open and honest during your negotiations? Or do you feel there may be assets or issues in your case that your spouse will knowingly conceal from you?

    • To what degree are you and your spouse prepared to work together?

    Are you willing to collaborate with each other even though it might be difficult at times? Or have communications broken down so severely that you believe it will be impossible to cooperate?

    • To what degree are you and your spouse willing to compromise?

    Are you willing to negotiate? Or do you think your wife or husband will dig their heels in and refuse to try to find common ground?

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    3. How much is a divorce? It depends on the divorce option and/or divorce professional you choose

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    The third factor that will contribute to the overall cost to divorce is the method and/or divorce professional you choose. There are five options for how to get a divorce and each varies in terms of fees and costs.

    For example, a do-it-yourself or DIY online divorce service can range from $300 to $1,800 per couple (not including court costs) while the cost of a divorce using mediation can range from $6,000 to $10,000 per couple. Legal fees for a lawyer led collaborative divorce can range from $25,000 to $50,000 while legal fees for a litigated divorce using divorce lawyers can range from $20,000 to $200,000.

    According to FindLaw, divorce costs vary by state. Martindale-Nolo Research also confirms the cost of divorce by state varies.

    But there’s a lot more to each divorce option than just cost.

    You also need to think about other issues because not all methods will get you the result you want and some of the options may not be viable for your situation. For example:

    • How comfortable are you with ambiguity in your final agreement?

    Do you want a thorough agreement that clearly spells out in great detail everything you agreed upon with respect to child support, child custody and parenting time, dividing marital property and debts, alimony (spousal support / spousal maintenance), etc. to ensure to the best of your ability that you won’t need to return to court in the future? Or are you comfortable with a basic agreement that may leave some items open to interpretation and possibly making a return to court in the future necessary (and at an additional expense)?

    • To what level do you want/need an agreement that is customized to your unique situation or the unique needs of your children?

    For example, if you or your spouse lives or works in a different state or one of you travels frequently for your job, a basic parenting plan just won’t do. Instead, you’ll need a flexible and customized parenting arrangement that meets your unique needs and minimizes disruption to the kids’ routines. On the other hand, if you both intend to live down the street from each other, don’t travel for work and will share in the care of your children equally, a basic child custody agreement may be sufficient.

    • How much control do you want over your divorce settlement agreement?

    Some people prefer to have complete control over the terms of their agreement while others would prefer that a divorce attorney take the lead or that a judge dictate the terms of their settlement in court.

    • To what level do you need to spell out your co-parenting arrangement?

    Remember, once your divorced you’ll no longer be husband and wife, but you’ll still be Mom and Dad. You’ll need to interact with each other as co-parents for many years to come as you remain active in your children’s lives.

    • How much emotional capital are you willing to invest to get through the actual divorce process?

    Some people are more willing or able to power through it on their own while others may prefer to have help or support from outside professionals.

    • What level of confrontation are you willing to withstand?

    Is this a contested divorce or an uncontested divorce? Are you looking for a way to get divorced as peacefully as possible? Or are you prepared to engage in a confrontational, all-out war if necessary to fight for what you believe you are entitled to (and for a family law judge to decide)?

    • How quickly do you want the divorce process to be completed?

    Is it more important for you to get through the process as quickly as possible or are you willing to add a bit of extra time to the process if it means a more thorough or higher quality agreement in your case?

    • What level and type of professional assistance you desire?

    Do you want a divorce expert to help you identify and resolve the issues and guide you and/or your spouse through the various steps? Or do you prefer to take on the divorce process on your own with no outside involvement?

    Are you seeking legal advice from a divorce attorney? Or would you prefer to make your own informed decisions using divorce mediation?

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    4. There are also costs necessitated by the state you live in, and/or the terms of your negotiated agreement

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    In addition to the three factors listed above, there are other types of costs associated with getting a divorce which are dependent on where you live, as well as the terms of your settlement agreement. For example, if you are divorcing and have minor children, (depending on the state you live in), you and your spouse may be required to participate in a court-ordered “parenting education program.” This can cost between $50 and $100 per parent.

    Another potential cost of divorce is related to the distribution of your marital assets and liabilities. Let’s say during your divorce negotiations, you and your soon-to-be-ex decided to share in your 401(k) retirement plan. In order to do so without any unintended tax consequences, you will need to have a special document drafted called a QDRO. The cost of a QDRO can range from $300 to $1,500, depending on who is doing the drafting.

    Or, if you and your spouse own a home, and agreed that ownership would be transferred to one of you, there will be additional costs to do so such as the drafting of a Quitclaim or Interspousal Transfer Deed and if necessary, the refinancing of the mortgage exclusively into one party’s name.

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    5. Court filing fee

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    And finally is a cost you will incur no matter which divorce method you use. And that’s court fees. Divorce filing fees vary from state-to-state (and sometimes even county-to-county), and can sometimes be different for cases with minor children, versus for cases without. Typically, a filing fee is a few hundred dollars per couple.

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    How much do divorces cost? It depends…

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    The answer to the question, “How much does divorce cost?” can range from a few hundred dollars to a few hundred thousand dollars! It all depends on the complexities of your situation, the level of conflict that exists between you and your spouse, the way you choose to go about your divorce proceedings, the terms of your negotiated agreement and the state you live in.

    After reading this post you may be tempted to choose a diy divorce or the divorce attorney or law firm with the lowest retainer fee or the mediator with the lowest fixed fee. But you also need to determine if that’s going to get you the result you want and if your divorce will be handled properly.

    Because if not, you’ll spend a lot more money in the end!

    And remember, there’s a lot more to each of the five divorce options than just cost. So do your homework before you file divorce papers so you can choose the one that’s most appropriate for you.

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  • Collaborative Divorce vs. Mediation: Which Saves More Money and Stress?

    Collaborative Divorce vs. Mediation: Which Saves More Money and Stress?

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    Collaborative divorce vs mediation is a critically important decision couples need to make. But with so much at stake, how to decide which divorce option is best isn’t easy, as there are many differences between collaborative divorce and mediation including: cost, time to complete, and approach, among many other things.

    In this post, we’ll take a closer look at collaborative law vs mediation so you can decide which one is right for you.

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    Collaborative divorce vs mediation? You decide.

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    There’s a lot more to these divorce options and how they work, but here’s an overview for each.

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    Divorce mediation process overview:

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    Divorce mediation is a cost effective, cooperative, divorce method (alternative dispute resolution process) whereby a neutral third-party (the Mediator) will help and guide a couple through resolving the issues and financial matters of divorce.

    It requires voluntary participation from you and the other party. And the mediator works for both you and your spouse.

    Mediation is confidential and the conversations had in session are never a matter of public record. Giving couples the freedom to discuss, without fear of judgement or reprisal, all issues relevant to their divorce.

    There is no requirement that a mediator be an attorney and in fact, some of the most qualified mediators aren’t lawyers at all.

    When a couple chooses to mediate, lawyers are not also required at any point in their divorce unless either spouse or both choose to involve a separate attorney(s). That makes mediating a good option for those who prefer to divorce without attorneys.

    The divorce mediator will:

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    • Help you and your spouse (the parties) identify and understand the relevant subjects that need to be addressed in your divorce so informed decisions can be made by each of you;
    • Act as peacemaker while guiding negotiations between you and your husband or wife on any areas of disagreement with the goal of reaching a positive outcome;
    • Bring options to the table and help you create a mutually acceptable divorce agreement that is customized to the unique needs of your situation and the unique needs of your children pertaining to your parenting plan and time sharing, child support, alimony (spousal support/maintenance/spousal maintenance), property division of marital assets and liabilities and other important topics;
    • Draft much of the required paperwork including a Memorandum of Understanding which outlines the tenants of your agreement.

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    Collaborative divorce process overview

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    A collaborative divorce (also known as collaborative law process) is a hybrid between a traditional divorce using attorneys and divorce mediation.

    • Each party would hire their own collaborative divorce attorney (a lawyer trained in the collaborative practice) to represent them. Just like in a traditional divorce situation, the goal of a collaborative divorce lawyer is to try to get the most favorable outcome for their one client – a divorce attorney can only represent one person;
    • Both parties and their respective collaborative family law attorney signs a contract that states they are committed to using cooperative dispute resolution techniques instead of combative tactics to negotiate the various divorce issues. The contract is called a “participation agreement”;
    • In collaborative divorce, a series of meetings take place in a law office between both spouses and their respective collaborative attorney along with other professionals as needed (such as financial professionals, child specialists, mental health professionals and a mediator to negotiate and try to come to agreement on the subjects;

    If a mutually satisfactory outcome cannot successfully be reached on the relevant divorce issues using collaborative divorce, each divorce attorney will be disqualified from representing their respective client.

    The couple (parties) will then continue with a litigated divorce through family law court proceedings, but will need to start over with new/different attorneys.

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    Mediation vs collaborative law: Other differences between the two options:

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    There are 7 key features of comparison between these two methods couples will want to familiarize themselves with to make the best choice in their unique situation.

    Number of professionals involved:

    • In divorce mediation, couples work with 1 mediator.
    • In collaborative, there are 2 lawyers, plus other outside professionals including: one or more financial experts, custody specialists, therapists or a divorce coach, and a mediator.

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    Neutrality:

    • Mediators are neutral third parties and don’t take sides. In the divorce mediation process, they work with a divorcing couple together to help them reach mutually agreeable solutions that are fair to both and are in the children’s best interest.
    • A collaborative lawyer (or any type of attorney) can only represent one spouse and their job is to advocate for their one client. So in the collaborative process, each spouse would have their own lawyer to advocate for them.

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    Advice vs information:

    • A divorce mediator empowers their clients to make their own decisions.
    • Lawyers give advice and advise parties what to do.

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    Time to completion:

    • A mediated divorce can take 3 to 6 months to complete and the speed and pace of the process is primarily directed by the two spouses. The issues can typically be resolved in two to five mediation sessions. Once the issues are resolved, the speed of the uncontested divorce is related to the time it takes to file the divorce and get a court date to finalize the proceedings.
    • Collaborative can take 8 to 14 months to complete. The issues can typically be resolved in four to six group sessions that vary in duration. The speed of the process is determined not only by how quickly all issues can be resolved, but, since there are a number of other people involved, also by the ability to coordinate the calendars of each party and their collaborative law attorney, the financial professional(s), the child specialist(s), therapist(s), conflict coach, etc. Other factors are related to the court process of filing, obtaining a court date, etc.

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    Cost:

    • The total cost of divorce through mediation typically ranges from $6,000 to $10,000 per couple.
    • The cost of collaborative varies and can range from $25,000 to $50,000 depending on case complexity, the cooperation level between the parties and the number of outside professionals engaged in the process. If the collaborative process is unsuccessful and a case subsequently goes to trial, the cost of a divorce can range from $78,000 to $200,000.

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    Certainty of outcomes:

    • In a private mediation, since both parties have direct input into defining the terms of their settlement agreement, outcomes are certain and guaranteed.
    • Collaborative divorce process can be risky because if agreement cannot successfully be reached on all outstanding issues, the lawyers will be disqualified from representing the parties. The spouses would then need to start over again and each would need to hire their own new divorce attorney as they proceed into the litigation process. Divorce litigation is also risky because there are no guarantees as to what a judge’s ruling will be for the issues.

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    Peaceful:

    • Divorce Mediation is cooperative and non-adversarial. There are 3 participants working together in direct negotiation: the mediator and the two divorcing spouses.
    • Despite the 4 or more parties sitting in the same room, collaborative divorce is still an adversarial process. The very nature being represented by counsel fosters an “us versus them” mentality.

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    Collaborative divorce vs mediation: Which should you choose?

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    Now that you’ve learned about the key differences and how they may apply to your unique circumstances, here are some reasons to choose a divorce mediator and some to choose collaborative divorce.

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    Use mediation vs collaborative divorce when:

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    1. You want what’s best for your family.

    In mediation, your children take center stage as you will be making decisions as parents, keeping your children’s best interests in mind.

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    2. You want a high level of control over the terms of your settlement.

    You’ll both have a high level of control over your settlement because you both will have a direct say in creating its terms and conditions.

    In mediation, you won’t get legal advice or be told what to do. Instead, you will be fully empowered to make your own informed decisions.

    You and your spouse will both have the opportunity to voice your concerns, be heard and have a direct say in the terms of your settlement.

    Your agreement will only be final when both parties agree and say it is. In mediation, you will have the opportunity to change your mind on issues as many times as you need to throughout the process.

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    3. You want your agreement to be fair to both you and your spouse.

    Because the mediator is a neutral, third party mediator who doesn’t take sides, their job is to help you reach an agreement that you both find fair.

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    4. You want to keep things peaceful.

    Mediation is a non-adversarial and cooperative process.

    You don’t need to agree on everything or be the best of friends in order to mediate your divorce. The mediator is a skilled professional and will help you negotiate the issues you do not agree on.

    If you and your soon-to-be ex are both willing to mediate, mediation can work for you. And you can peacefully divorce without a lawyer.

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    5. You don’t want your divorce proceedings to drag on forever.

    When you look at divorce mediation vs the lawyer-driven collaborative law process, mediated divorces take significantly less time to complete.

    The speed of mediation is controlled by you.

    And in mediation, all communications take place in real time so any disagreements can be discussed and resolved right away.

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    6. You want to save money.

    Collaborative divorce is very expensive.

    You’ll not only need to pay your respective lawyers for all of their time, but you’ll also have to pay for any other outside professionals brought into the divorce process, including the financial expert(s), custody specialist(s), therapist(s), coach(es), etc.

    But if you mediate and select a highly skilled mediator, you’ll get a thorough agreement while saving tens of thousands of dollars on your divorce.

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    7. You and your spouse are both willing to cooperate and keep your proceedings transparent.

    Mediation requires full disclosure and transparency in order to work.

    So you both must be willing to engage in a good faith negotiation and you both must be willing to compromise.

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    Use collaborative divorce vs mediation when:

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    1. You cannot use mediation but still want legal guidance to try to avoid litigation.

    If your divorce case is problematic and you cannot use mediation services due to a dishonest, aggressive, uncooperative or reluctant spouse but you and your spouse still want to try to avoid litigation, it might be worth a try to engage collaborative professionals.

    Collaborative divorce costs significantly more than divorce mediation, but less than litigation.

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    2. You want legal advice and legal representation from an advocate who works for you and only you.

    Since your lawyer will be representing you and only you, he/she can give you advice throughout the proceedings and advocate on your behalf if that is what you want.

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    The bottom line

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    This is your divorce, so the decision to use divorce mediation, or pursue a collaborative divorce, depends on personal choice, as well as your circumstances.

    Hopefully, after reading this article, you feel more knowledgeable about the differences in these different divorce methods, in order to choose the option right for you.

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    Frequently Asked Questions

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    Mediation is an unregulated profession in the United States, and every mediator has their own approach. We can only speak to how divorce mediation works with us.

    Strategy Session

    Our mediation process starts with a strategy meeting – the first meeting between you, your spouse, and Joe, your mediator, to set goals and develop the plan for your negotiations. During this meeting, he will share what you can expect throughout the process and tips for how to get an optimal outcome. You and your spouse will each have the opportunity to voice your most pressing concerns and goals for mediation.

    Joe will then work with you both to develop a tailored plan for addressing each issue throughout your negotiations, determining the most effective sequence for resolving matters regarding your children, finances, property, and future.

    Having a complete financial picture allows Joe to understand your situation and create options to explore during negotiations that best serve your family’s needs. At the end of the strategy session, Joe will walk you through what financial information is needed prior to each mediation session.

    Mediation Sessions

    After completing your initial financial work, you’ll schedule your first session. During this and subsequent meetings as needed, Joe will help you work through and resolve all necessary aspects of your divorce including a parenting plan, child support, alimony, and division of property and debts.

    He will listen to each of your wants, needs, concerns, and goals, formulate ideas, create options, and work together with you to develop fair and equitable solutions. Drawing on his financial expertise, he’ll provide guidance about the financial matters relating to your divorce so you know what your financial picture will look like moving forward.

    In areas where agreement proves challenging, Joe will employ various conflict resolution techniques to help you and your spouse communicate more effectively, understand each other’s interests, and negotiate toward mutually agreeable solutions.

    After each session, Joe will outline specific tasks to prepare for your next meeting – whether that’s gathering financial documents or considering options discussed. This step-by-step approach keeps the process manageable and productive. You can easily submit all documents through our secure online portal.

    Drafting of the Agreement

    Once all necessary issues have been resolved and your negotiations have concluded, Joe will draft a comprehensive document called a Memorandum of Understanding detailing all agreements, along with a host of other supporting documents. This paperwork will outline the terms of your divorce.

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    Mediation can resolve all of the issues necessary for a couple’s divorce including, but not limited to:

    • parenting plan outlining parental responsibilities and time sharing arrangements for co-parenting children post-divorce. (some refer to this as custody)
    • Child support(which is the financial support each parent will provide the children)
    • The division of marital assets and liabilities. (also referred to as either equitable distribution or community property, depending on the state where the divorce is taking place)
    • And how much, and for how long alimony will be paid or received. (alimony may also be referred to as either spousal support, maintenance, or spousal maintenance, depending on the state where the couple is getting a divorce)

    Along with the four main issues listed above, mediation can help resolve a host of other important issues related to your unique situation or circumstances.

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    Every mediator’s process (if they have one) is different, so we can only speak to how long divorce mediation takes working with us.

    Most couples complete their mediation in 3 – 5 sessions, meeting with Joe every other week. On average, divorce mediation takes 2 – 3 months. The speed of our divorce mediation process is largely within your control. Your timeline will depend on the complexities of your case, how quickly you complete the required financial work between sessions, ease in coordinating your schedules, and pace in reaching decisions.

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    Every private mediator has their own fee structure, and divorce mediation cost and fees vary significantly based on the experience and skill level of the mediator, the scope of their mediation services and individual case complexities. They also vary from state-to-state.

    Our mediation fees are tailored to each couple’s unique situation and case complexity. Even our most comprehensive packages typically cost less than what you’d spend on two attorney retainers.

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    Our sessions take place via Zoom. Online mediation provides a flexible, convenient and efficient dispute resolution solution. In fact, we pioneered online divorce mediation and have been successfully mediating in this format since 2011.

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    There is no legal requirement that you must have a divorce attorney, and many people specifically choose mediation because they want to divorce without a lawyer. However, depending on their professional background and approach, some mediators do require each spouse to hire a lawyer to consult with throughout mediation.

    While attorney consultation is not required in our mediation process, we fully support clients who wish to seek legal counsel at any stage. Our focus is on empowering you to make informed decisions in whatever way works best for your situation.

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    No! You do not need to have everything decided before starting mediation. The only thing you need to agree on is the decision itself to mediate your divorce. In fact, many couples specifically wait until mediation to negotiate the issues.

    Divorce is a complex matter, and you may not “know what you don’t know” when it comes to the issues you need to identify, discuss and resolve in order to come to a complete agreement. By working with Joe, you can be assured that everything will be discussed thoroughly – in the proper order and given the necessary time and attention it deserves.

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    Whether you are divorcing or separating, our mediation process is the same. The difference is in what you choose to do with your mediation agreement after the process is completed.

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    Starting mediation with us begins with a simple first step – scheduling an initial meeting for you and your spouse. This meeting gives you a chance to share your situation, ask questions, and learn about our mediation process in a private, no-pressure setting. It also helps us understand how we can best support your unique needs.

    ** Available to couples whose divorce or separation will take place in California, Illinois, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, or Washington State.

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    You and your children will benefit when you choose divorce mediation.

    Mediation is more Peaceful: A mediator guides couples to attack problems, not each other – fostering respectful dialog and win-win solutions. This approach paves the way for a peaceful, amicable divorce that benefits both spouses and their children.

    Fair and Equitable: One party cannot “win” at the expense of the other as resolutions must emerge from the process with a divorce settlement created and acceptable to both parties.

    Less Expensive: The cost of divorce mediation is significantly less than traditional divorce litigation, the collaborative divorce process, or a court trial.

    Better for Children: Children aren’t caught in the middle of a confrontational family court process or traumatic heated custody battle. Instead, parents work together to resolve the issues in a way that’s best for their family. A non-adversarial approach fosters more agreement, improved communication, better parenting plans and a better co-parenting relationship.

    Better Results: Couples who mediate are more satisfied with the terms of their divorce because they were mutually agreed upon.

    Dignified: Instead of the cold, traditional court process where a couple is treated like a case file or docket number, mediation is a kinder, more human process. Divorce mediation allows couples to end their marriage while maintaining self-respect and dignity.

    Private and Confidential: In a private mediation session, everything is confidential. No one will know what’s being discussed except the two spouses and their mediator. Unlike a litigated divorce, where everything submitted to the family law court is part of the public record.

    Divorce Faster: The pace of the process is controlled by the parties, instead of being at the mercy of a lawyer’s or a judge’s schedule.

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    Ultimately, the payment arrangement is up to the couple to decide together. Most frequently, couples split the mediation costs equally between them, as the mediator works with both spouses together to help them reach agreements. This 50-50 split often feels fair to most people since they each benefit from the process.

    Another approach is to share mediation costs in a ratio based on each spouse’s income. For instance, if one spouse earns twice as much as the other, they might pay two-thirds of the cost while the lower-earning spouse pays one-third. This income-based split can make mediation more accessible for couples with significant income differences. Occasionally, one spouse may choose to pay the entire cost of mediation, though this is less common.

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    No, a mediator cannot give legal advice. Some people think if they hire a divorce mediation attorney, which is another way of saying a lawyer who practices mediation, that the “attorney-mediator” can provide legal advice.

    But that is not the case. Because when they are in the role of a divorce mediator, a lawyer cannot dispense legal advice – regardless of their professional background.

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    There’s a lot more to these divorce methods and how they work, but here are just a few of the many differences between divorce mediation vs a lawyer.

    In attorney-driven divorces, each spouse hires their own respective attorney to represent them.

    The two lawyers will argue back and forth in court on issues of child custody and a parenting plan, division of property, alimony and child support. Each divorce lawyer will create strategies to fight and weaken the other party’s position in order to “win” the divorce case for their respective client – even if it’s at the detriment of the other spouse, the couple’s children or the overall health of the family unit.

    Traditional divorce litigation using attorneys is adversarial, lengthy, and expensive.

    In divorce mediation, both spouses work with one mediator.

    The divorce mediator does not take sides and does not give legal advice – they are a neutral third party. The mediator helps both spouses communicate, negotiate directly (privately and out of court) and resolve all issues that pertain to their divorce. Couples have the opportunity to voice their individual concerns, be heard and have direct input into the terms of their divorce settlement agreement.

    In mediation, there is no “win-lose” as a skilled divorce mediator helps the couple reach fair and amicable solutions that prioritize the well-being of children. Mediation is a more peaceful, less costly, confidential divorce method that takes significantly less time and produces better outcomes.

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    There are many differences between divorce mediation and collaborative law including cost, time to complete and approach.

    The Collaborative Law Process is a hybrid between a traditional attorney-led divorce and divorce mediation.

    Each party retains their own respective lawyer trained in the collaborative process to represent them. Both spouses and their respective counsel sign a contract called a “participation agreement” that states that they are all committed to using cooperative techniques rather than combative tactics to resolve custody, support, etc.

    In the Collaborative Process, a series of meetings take place between both spouses and both lawyers and possibly other outside professionals such as a divorce coach or therapist, child specialist, accountants or financial planners as needed to negotiate and try to come to agreement on the issues. If agreement cannot successfully be reached on all relevant divorce issues using the Collaborative Divorce Process, the lawyers will be disqualified from representing the two parties as they continue into the litigation process.

    While for some problematic cases, Collaborative Process can be worth a try before resorting to divorce litigation, but it can get very expensive and drawn-out, and there are no guarantees of success.

    In the process of mediation, there are three participants working together in direct negotiations: each spouse and one mediator.

    The mediator is neutral and does not represent either spouse. They help the two parties negotiate directly to resolve all required issues pertaining to their divorce. Couples have direct input into the terms of their agreement. In mediation, there is no “us against them” as the goal of mediation is to help the parties reach an agreement they are both satisfied with and that keeps their children front and center.

    Mediation delivers better outcomes for divorcing couples and their kids, takes less time to complete and is less expensive than a collaborative divorce.

    Learn more about divorce mediator vs collaborative law.

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    During the negotiation phase of the process, mediation is not yet binding. But once all issues in your divorce are resolved and agreed upon, drafted into a proper document by a qualified professional, signed by both parties (both spouses), and approved by the courts, the agreements made will become binding in a couple’s divorce decree.

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    After a couple reaches agreement on all issues in mediation, the final step is completing the formal court process to end the marriage. However, the time to finalize a divorce after mediation varies significantly by state and sometimes even by county, as each jurisdiction has its own requirements.

    For example, in New Jersey, there is no waiting period. The process simply requires the couple’s filing professional to submit the court paperwork and await a court date, which typically takes 8 to 12 weeks. In contrast, California has a mandatory 6-month waiting period. This means that even after completing all required paperwork, couples must wait an additional 6 months before receiving their final judgment of divorce.

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    Divorce mediation is a viable option for couples who meet all of the following criteria:

    • Couples who want an experienced professional to help them identify and discuss the issues while retaining full control over the decisions they will make and full control over their settlement agreement;

    An experienced divorce mediator will help the parties identify the issues and present a number of possible solutions, but will not give the parties legal advice or tell either party what to do.

    • Couples who are willing to engage in an honest and good faith negotiation;

    Mediation is a transparent process so both parties must be willing to openly disclose all relevant information, whether financial or otherwise, to the mediator and to the other party and ensure the information is accurate, complete and truthful to the best of their knowledge. If either party is hiding assets or defrauding the other, mediation should not be used.

    • Couples where both spouses are willing to voluntarily attend and actively participate in mediation;

    If one party wants to mediate but the other does not, mediation will not be a viable option for that couple’s divorce.

    • Spouses who are both mentally capable of making their own decisions;

    Each party must be of sound mind and have the capacity to think, reason and understand for him/herself. Learn who we help.

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    • One spouse is incapacitated
      Mediation centers on “self-determination” – the ability of both parties to make decisions in their own best interests. If they’re mentally incapacitated in any way, mediation will not be a viable option.
    • There’s domestic violence or safety concerns
      If there’s a restraining order in effect, it may make mediating impossible. Or maybe there’s such a significant power imbalance that one spouse is afraid to express their true needs for fear of retribution from the other side. If a party has safety concerns, mediation will not be a viable option.
    • A party has concerns that assets or debts are being concealed.
      Mediation is a good faith negotiation and requires transparency. So if one party is concerned the other is hiding assets or debts, or their business dealings aren’t above bar, mediation is not recommended.
    • One spouse refuses to participate
      Because mediation is voluntary, both spouses must be willing to at least give it a try. Active participation is one of the requirements for making mediation work.

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    Divorce mediation is an unregulated profession and there’s no such thing as a certified mediator (other than a term some mediation associations designate to their members), so it’s also critically important to hire a good mediator.

    There are four characteristics of an experienced and competent mediator for divorce:

    1. The ability to expertly guide two opposing parties through a complex negotiation and ultimately to settlement while remaining neutral at all times;
    2. The ability to create a series of settlement options for the parties to discuss and consider based on the mediator’s involvement with a variety of other cases similar to theirs;
    3. A command of the complex financial matters surrounding divorce;
    4. A comprehensive knowledge of and ability to remain current on the issues that may impact a couple’s divorce agreement.

    Some attorneys feel that attending law school provides them with the skills they need in order to practice mediation. But while they may have a grasp of family law matters, they may not know how to be an effective mediator or remain fully neutral. They also may not have the financial acumen required to resolve the many complex financial issues surrounding a divorce dispute.

    The key is to choose a mediator who has been professionally trained, knows the issues that need resolution, is truly neutral, has mediated hundreds of cases and is skilled in resolving the complex financial matters surrounding divorce.

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  • Washington Child Support Beyond the Calculator: Hidden Factors That Affect Payment

    Washington Child Support Beyond the Calculator: Hidden Factors That Affect Payment

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    As parents starting a divorce in Washington, your children are most likely your number one concern. And they should be. You love your kids and want the world for them. So now that you’re ending your marriage, how will you ensure they get the financial support needed to minimize the effect your divorce will have on them?

    That’s where child support in Washington State comes in.

    But the Washington State Child Support calculator has a number of complexities and limitations, and coming to an agreement may be harder than you think.

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    Washington state child support: What is the purpose?

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    In Washington state, child support guidelines have two purposes:

    1. To ensure that the monthly child support obligation agreed upon by you and your spouse is enough to meet your children’s basic needs; and
    2. To provide a framework for discussion regarding an amount of additional child support, based on each of your incomes, resources, and standard(s) of living, for any further needs your children may have, that are not included in the basic needs above.

    Child support is one of four topics that are discussed and agreed upon in divorce mediation along with a parenting plan, spousal maintenance (also known as alimony or spousal support), and community property (dividing marital property and debts).

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    But if you’re wondering how child support works in Washington, it’s important to recognize that this topic is about more than just money.

    Many parents think the purpose of WA State child support is to make sure they have enough money after they’re divorced to pay for the items their kids need. But that’s only partially correct.

    Divorce is hard on children. And life as they know it is about to change significantly. Child support helps alleviate some of the effects your divorce may have on them. And allows your kids’ lifestyles to remain as normal as possible, once you and your spouse have ended your marriage.

    Child support shows your kids you still love them, want the best for them, and care about their well-being.

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    There are a few things you need to know about the challenges of determining child support in Washington state:

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    • While there is a Washington child support calculator, it can be deviated from, isn’t useful in many situations, and what factors are included and excluded from its calculation can cause significant disagreement between you and your spouse.
    • Because child support in Washington state only considers the income of each parent and not the amount of time the children spend with each of you, those with 50-50 parenting plans may have a difficult time using the guideline “as-is.”
    • Elevated mortgage interest rates, coupled with the above national average cost of housing in Washington state, keeping the children in the marital home post-divorce, may prove challenging.
    • The Washington state child support worksheet does not factor into its calculation the ages of your children, which may cause parents of teenagers to experience a shortfall in support.
    • This topic has less to do with formulas and guidelines, and more to do with money, negotiation, and doing what’s best for your kids.
    • There is more than meets the eye on this issue and in most cases, this subject is much too complex for you to try to resolve on your own.

    That’s why you’ll get the best result by mediating your Washington divorce with us.

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    The Washington state child support calculator is only a starting point for negotiations.

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    Federal law requires all 50 states to have a repeatable way by which to calculate child support. So while every state has a child support calculator, the approaches vary greatly from state to state. Some states use a simple percentage-based formula. You’d simply take a share of the supporting party’s income and pay it to the other party, and you’re done. This is known as a “percentage of obligor’s income” model. While others have moved to an approach called the “income shares’ model which ideally considers each party’s income and earnings, as well as the amount of time the children spend with each parent.

    And while Washington state does use a version of the income shares model, in our experience, there are shortfalls with WA state child support approach.

    Making determining child support in Washington state a very complex undertaking.

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    The Washington state child support worksheet can be both confusing and incomplete.

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    Washington uses its own version of the Income Shares model which allows you and your spouse to make use of any of the following factors when determining child support:

    • Your incomes from employment, interest, and dividends, and any businesses you own; and
    • Any maintenance (aka alimony or spousal support) paid or received; and
    • Who takes the children as a tax deduction; and
    • Any mandatory retirement contributions either of you must make; and
    • Any mandatory union dues either of you must pay; and
    • How much each of you voluntarily contributes to your 401(k) or other retirement plans; and
    • Normal business expenses; and
    • The value of any household assets such as real estate, investments, vehicles and boats, bank accounts and cash, and retirement accounts you may own; and
    • Any household debts you may have incurred.

    There are also several other “add-ons” that may be factored in such as:

    • The cost of your children’s health insurance premiums; and
    • Any out of pocket medical expenses such as deductibles, co-pays, or other non-covered expenses; and
    • Any daycare expenses; and
    • Educational costs for the children; and
    • Any visitation-related travel expenses were one of you to live far from the other.

    And if that wasn’t enough to confuse you, there’s this:

    The parties may also consider any other factors that either of them deems relevant to the determination of child support.

    Starting to see why this is a very complex undertaking?

    Now assuming you’ve got all of that, and can enter all this data into the child support calculator, the output may or may not accurately represent what is truly required to raise your kids! One thing WA state child support does not factor in, is the amount of time the children spend with each of you.

    This, in my experience, is one of the most significant challenges parents face when attempting to use the WA state child support calculator.

    Think about it. The more time your children spend with you, the more food they’re going to eat. The more utilities they’re going to use. And the more expenses you’re going to incur on their behalf. And even though since 2011, experts have recommended adding time sharing to calculating child support, Washington state higher-ups have still not agreed to do so.

    Also not considered in the WA child support calculator is the age of your children. And while the state of Washington may feel that way, something tells us if you’re a parent of a teenager, you know their expenses are far greater than their younger siblings. From the amount of food a teenage boy eats, to the labels on the clothes your teens wear, older children are just flat-out more expensive than younger kids! Yet the amount of child support you will receive is the same whether they’re 6 or 16.

    What you’re starting to see in Washington, just like everywhere else in the United States, is that the amount outputted by the guideline is an estimation of what it costs to raise your children, may or may not accurately represent what it costs to raise them, and can be deviated from if in your case, you and your spouse choose to do so.

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    And many of the “factors” mentioned above are difficult to agree on.

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    For example, according to WA state child support worksheets, the value of any household assets such as real estate, investments, vehicles and boats, bank accounts and cash, and retirement accounts you may own may be factored into the state of Washington calculation support calculation. So, does that mean you might have to decide how to divide your community property (i.e. your assets and liabilities) to understand who’s going to receive which assets and liabilities before you determine child support? Didn’t see that coming, did you? And, what is an appropriate amount to voluntarily contribute to your 401(k) or other retirement vehicles? Is it fair you max out your 401(k) contributions even if it means your kids don’t have a nice place to live, or enough to eat?

    And don’t forget – this guideline was developed by the state of Washington. But the state of Washington doesn’t know the exact amount required to ensure your kids are properly supported so they’ll thrive.

    Only you know what it actually costs to raise your kids!

    So, while you might think you simply run the guideline and use the number calculated, it’s not even close. The reality is, the number isn’t a hard and fast formula, but rather, a suggestion. And it’s just a starting point for negotiation.

    From there, it’s up to you and your spouse to negotiate an agreement that’s in the best interests of your children and that you both find fair.

    Which is not so easy to do. Especially if you live in Seattle. Child support amounts outputted by the calculator may not be adequate for parents who live in urban areas of King County!

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    So what does child support cover in Washington state?

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    So far, you’ve learned that the Washington State child support schedule attempts to provide divorcing parents with an estimate of a basic amount of financial support needed to raise their kids. And then it allocates a portion of that amount to each spouse based on a number of factors.

    But even when you run the child support calculator, Washington state parents still need to decide which expenses should be included, and how they’re going to handle those that aren’t.

    As parents, I’m sure you would agree that you have to provide at least a basic level of support to your children. Food on the table, a safe place for them to live, and clothes for them to go to school in.

    But after that, what does child support cover in Washington State is the subject of much debate.

    First is the issue with the Washington child support calculator itself. Previously, we talked about how any out-of-pocket medical expenses such as deductibles, co-pays, or other non-covered expenses, was one of the categories listed on the WA State child support worksheets. But should these really be included?

    Let’s look at the story of 5-year-old Jake. Jake is an active little boy who loves to swim. His mom swears he’s part fish! But poor Jake is highly susceptible to ear infections and sinus infections. Resulting in frequent trips to the doctor, lots of antibiotics, and a significant number of co-pays made to both Dr. Johnson and Bartell Drugs.

    At first, it seems like including out-of-pocket medical expenses in the WA state child support amount for Jake makes sense. But over time, something happens, and Jake grows out of them. No more doctor visits or prescriptions to pay for! But back when you got divorced, Jake’s child support award included funds for deductibles, co-pays, and other non-covered expenses. So, in theory, the WA State child support amount you both agreed on for Jake is too high. So now you must open old wounds and attempt to renegotiate the amount. Ugh!

    Then, there’s the matter of the items that were not covered in the State of Washington child support calculation.

    Such as:

    • Swimming lessons;
    • Cheerleading academy;
    • All-star baseball camp;
    • Automobile insurance;
    • College site visits;

    And the list goes on and on…

    In mediation, we commonly refer to these as “extraordinary” expenses and they are not typically included in the basic child support amount. These items must be discussed and negotiated separately to ensure your children get the financial support they need and deserve. Because let’s face it, the items listed above tend to be among the most expensive of all!

    Starting to see why answering the question, “How much is child support in Washington state” is not as simple as using some free calculator you may have found on the Internet?

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    There are other issues to be decided regarding Washington child support.

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    In addition to the basic and extraordinary costs associated with raising your children, you and your spouse will also need to discuss and come to an agreement on:

    • Who gets to take the child tax credit;
    • Who will pay for the children’s health insurance;
    • Whether you have enough life insurance to cover the children’s expenses now and when they go off to college;
    • How college tuition costs will be paid for;
    • The duration child support in Washington is paid (because for some children, it may extend beyond age 18)

    Making the list of what is not easily resolved, longer and longer.

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    The Washington state child support worksheets aren’t clear on how to handle all situations.

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    Back when I was a kid, it was easy to figure out how much my parents got paid. Mom worked 20 hours a week in a jewelry store and was paid hourly. And Dad was a construction supervisor and had a flat salary. There were no bonuses, restricted stock units, stock options, or ownership shares in their companies. Maybe dad got a Christmas ham or bottle of booze as a thank you come year-end, but that was that.

    Today, compensation has gotten far more complex.

    Bonuses, stock options, RSU’s, commissions, deferred compensation – you name it – can all play a significant role in how someone earns a living. And these types of financial incentives usually aren’t paid out on a regular basis. And in some years, not at all.

    If you or your spouse receives one (or more) of these “exotic” compensation methods, the amount you receive may far exceed the amount you get through your basic salary amount. So, predicting what each of you earns for the purposes of determining child support can be difficult.

    Add to that more and more people in the Seattle and King County area work for high-tech startups, and are being compensated with ownership shares, and you’ve got some real challenges in determining how much is child support in Washington State.

    And who’s counting, anyway?

    Prior to your decision to divorce, I’m sure you and your spouse did everything you could to give your kids the life they deserved. There was no pre-agreed upon amount you were going to spend every month. And there certainly wasn’t any cap. They asked for something, and you provided it to them.

    No questions asked.

    But now that you’re divorcing, that’s exactly what the Washington state child support guidelines are asking you to do.

    In order to get a divorce in the state of Washington, you and your spouse must agree on a monthly amount of financial support you’ll each provide to your children. And, according to the Washington State Child Support Schedule, that amount of child support may be capped if you and your spouse collectively make more than a certain amount each month.

    Now you might be thinking to yourself, “Wait, didn’t you say our children were entitled to share in our current incomes? What if we collectively make more than the cap? Then what do we do?”

    Good question…

    It’s been my experience that parents typically have very different spending styles when it comes to their children. Leaving you to try and answer the question, “How much child support is enough and how much is too much?”

    In either of the cases I described above, you and your spouse would have no choice but to skip the guidelines and negotiate instead.

    Which is not always so easy to do.

    And the answer to “When does child support end in Washington” isn’t as simple as you might think.

    The theory in Washington is that child support ends when a child turns 18 or graduates from high school, whichever is last to occur. So, child support ends somewhere around age 18. Right? Maybe… But what happens if they commute to college? Don’t go to college? Boomerang back home after college?

    So, while child support can end at age 18, these days, more often than not, we’re seeing that it doesn’t.

    The truth is, there can be exceptions agreed upon by you and your spouse. As parents, the two of you have quite a bit of latitude to decide what works for your children, in your unique situation and circumstances.

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    When the law gets involved, it’s a problem.

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    There’s something you need to understand here: In a litigated divorce, a family court judge determines child support. Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

    Because the judge will dictate a child support order and both spouses might wind up with something they don’t think is fair or that doesn’t appropriately meet the needs of their children.

    That’s why it’s better to negotiate this issue out of the courts and that’s exactly what mediation is all about.

    In mediation, you get to decide – and come to a child support payment (and agreement) that puts your children first and you both agree is fair, instead of letting your future be decided by a stranger in court.

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    You will get the best Washington child support result by mediating with us.

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    Washington State child support issues will vary based on your situation and circumstances. And as you’ve learned, there is more than meets the eye on this topic. So don’t risk putting your children’s financial future in jeopardy by trying to resolve child support on your own.

    Use divorce mediation and work with us instead!

    Using our extensive financial knowledge of the complex matters of child support in Washington State, we’ll help you and your spouse determine a child support amount that accurately reflects your lives as parents and the specialized needs of your children.

    One that covers all basic, extraordinary, and future expenses.

    • We’ll talk about who your children are, what they like to do, and what it will take to make sure they’re getting what they need and deserve. Not just what the formula says you have to pay so they can “get by.”
    • Work through specialized cases like child support for when you share in the care of your children equally. We’ll also explore arrangements in which the children spend a majority of their time with one parent as this, too, can have its own special approach.
    • Help you negotiate any issues of disagreement and create an agreement you both find fair and equitable regarding the support of your children.
    • Make sure your agreement minimizes tax issues, avoids penalties, and improves cash flow whenever possible.

    Because no two situations or sets of circumstances are alike.

    Your children are unique and your child support agreement should reflect that, too.

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center” linear_angle=”180″ style_type=”default” animation_type=”fade” animation_direction=”static” animation_speed=”1.0″ animation_delay=”0.5″]Guide to Divorce Mediation in Washington State[/fusion_title][fusion_accordion type=”toggles” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” boxed_mode=”yes” border_size=”2″ border_color=”#d8e8f2″ hover_color=”#f4f3ef” padding_top=”10px” padding_right=”5px” padding_bottom=”10px” padding_left=”5px” title_tag=”h4″ fusion_font_family_title_font=”Poppins” fusion_font_variant_title_font=”600″ title_font_size=”18px” title_color=”var(–awb-color6)” icon_size=”25px” icon_color=”#d8e8f2″ icon_boxed_mode=”no” icon_box_color=”#d8e8f2″ icon_alignment=”right” content_font_size=”16px” content_color=”var(–awb-color6)” toggle_hover_accent_color=”var(–awb-color6)” toggle_active_accent_color=”var(–awb-color6)”][fusion_toggle title=”How is mediation conducted for divorces in Washington State?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    In Washington State divorce mediation is a confidential process and may either be conducted using the family law court-supported Washington State Dispute Resolution Center (DRC), or conducted privately by working with Seattle divorce mediators like us.

    While both the DRC and private mediators provide mediation services, and remain neutral throughout the proceedings, the DRC may not be best equipped to handle the complexities that most divorcing clients typically have.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What is the difference between court-supported mediation and private mediation?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    There are three major differences between court-supported mediation and private mediation in

    First, when mediation is court-supported, you don’t get to choose your mediator like you would with private mediation. So you could end up with a mediator you don’t like, or you’re not comfortable working with.

    Second, the mediators may be less experienced than private mediators. The only requirement to become a court-supported mediator in Seattle is to take a 40-hour mediation training class. So many new mediators get their start this way and have little or no real-world experience.

    Third, if your situation is complex, a court-supported mediator may not have the experience to handle unique issues like yours. In that case, not only will you have wasted your time, but you and your spouse may find yourselves even farther from agreement.

    In our opinion, it’s always better to hire a private mediator to handle your divorce case.

    Third, if your situation is complex, a court-appointed mediator may not have the experience to handle unique issues like yours. In that case, not only will you have wasted your time, but you and your spouse may find yourselves even farther from agreement.

    Finally, private mediation is not mandated by a judge. The couple forgoes the attorney-driven path to divorce and instead chooses to mediate. So if you and your spouse both agree to use mediation, you’ll hire a private divorce mediator like us, typically before you file for divorce. We would then help you identify, discuss, negotiate and reach an amicable agreement through mediation on all of the required issues, confidentially and without the involvement of divorce lawyers (if you choose).

    In our opinion, mediation is always better when conducted privately.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What is the Seattle divorce mediation process?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Since no two mediators are alike, the actual mediation process will vary from mediator-to-mediator. But here’s a high-level overview of what happens throughout the divorce mediation process once you become our client:

    To kick things off, your first mediation session will be a one-hour strategy session. In this session, Joe (our mediator) will help you and  your spouse prepare for mediation by:

    • Developing a framework for your negotiations;
    • Identifying key areas of concern you each have;
    • Defining your goals for the divorce mediation process;
    • Directing you to begin gathering important financial documents;
    • And instructing you on how to work together to complete our proprietary forms and worksheets.

    This part of the mediation process is intended to help the two of you and Joe to define what a successful mediation will look like and greatly increase the chances you will come to an agreement.

    Once you’ve submitted to the mediator the pre-work and discovery items required, the mediation process transitions to negotiations.

    Joe will meet with you and your spouse online and guide you through a series of conversations encompassing the issues that need to be settled for your divorce. Each session lasts approximately 2-hours, and the number and timing of sessions depend greatly on the details of your divorce, and the complexity of the issues you face.

    If areas of disagreement arise in a mediation session, Joe will use his expertise in a variety of dispute resolution techniques to offer possible solutions, help you explore and negotiate each option, and reach agreement during the mediation on these topics.

    Once agreement is reached for all required issues, Joe will then draft a complex written document called a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU), outlining all decisions made during your negotiations.

    Upon completion of mediation, you will each be encouraged to have your written agreement reviewed by your own respective lawyer, however it is your decision whether or not to do so.

    Once you both agree the MOU looks good, you will then hire a filing professional who will assist with the paperwork preparation process. Your divorce papers may include, but are not limited to, the uncontested divorce filing, the divorce complaint, the marital settlement agreement, along with a host of other related King County court paperwork. It’s important to note there are attorney and non-attorney filing professionals and it is your choice of which professional to use to have your divorce filed with the court.

    Upon receipt of the proper documentation and filing fees, your uncontested judgement of divorce will be granted by a judge in 90 days as there is a waiting period in Washington State.

    Our mediation process is very efficient and can be completed in a fraction of the time that a litigated divorce or collaborative law process would take.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What are the main benefits of mediation?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Mediation can help couples navigate divorce more peacefully and efficiently, without the cost and stress of lengthy court battles. This confidential process allows the parties to work together in a supportive environment, focusing on finding solutions that work for everyone involved. Rather than leaving decisions to a judge, parties decide their own outcome, which often leads to more satisfying and lasting agreements.

    Through mediation, we help the parties reach common ground on important issues like property division, parenting arrangements, and financial matters. The flexible nature of mediation makes it possible to explore creative solutions that might not be available in traditional court proceedings. Because you maintain control of the process, you’re often able to reach agreements that better reflect your family’s unique needs.

    Given our extensive experience, we’re able to help nearly all of our mediation cases settle successfully, helping minimize both emotional and financial stress. By choosing mediation, couples can work toward resolution without getting caught up in the adversarial court system, preserving important relationships and setting a positive tone for future interactions, especially when children are involved.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”How can I convince my spouse to mediate?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    While we always hope couples choose to mediate their separation or divorce, divorce mediation is a voluntary process. In our experience, what typically happens is there’s one spouse who is familiar with mediation, and one who is not. To help your spouse, we encourage you to direct them to our comprehensive options for divorce guide and to learn more about the benefits of choosing mediation.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Do I also need a divorce attorney if I am using a Seattle mediator?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    There is no requirement in Seattle, King County or Washington State that parties have to retain a lawyer as involving attorneys is a matter of personal choice. While some clients choose to hire a Seattle family law attorney to review their settlement agreement (known as a Memorandum of Understanding in mediation) or provide legal advice during or after the mediation process, others explicitly choose to divorce without the involvement of lawyers. If you’d like the perspective of a divorce lawyer on a one or more family law matters, you are encouraged to do so.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Do my spouse and I have to be in agreement on any or all matters prior to starting the Washington State divorce process?” open=”no” awb-switch-editor-focus=”No! In fact, many couples specifically wait for the mediator to help them reach a settlement. This way, they can make certain all of the necessary issues will be covered fully – in the appropriate order and given the attention and time required.” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    No! In fact, many couples specifically wait for the mediator to help them reach a settlement. This way, they can make certain all of the necessary issues will be covered fully – in the appropriate order and given the attention and time required.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Will divorce mediation work in complex divorces in King County?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    While we can’t speak for all King County mediators, for us the answer is yes. We’ve successfully mediated divorce for employees of numerous King County employers including Amazon, Boeing, Kirkland, Microsoft, Shopify, and U of Washington among many others. Given the types of compensation these employers typically offer their employees, most of our cases have a high degree of complexity including complicated compensation such as stock options and restricted stock units, along with other variable compensation components like bonuses and commissions, as well as deferred compensation packages including pensions. We are also well versed in divorces involving a business, high assets, divorce after long-term marriage, and grey divorce.

    Read case studies and learn who we help

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”How does mediation compare to other dispute resolution processes like collaborative divorce?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    While the goal of both of these divorce options is to help couples avoid court, there are significant ways they differ from the number of professionals involved, the cost, the timing, among many other factors. You can learn more in our post: Divorce Mediation Versus Collaborative Law Process.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What’s the difference between a divorce mediator and a divorce mediation lawyer?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Mediators come from a variety of different backgrounds. Some are attorney mediators, so they may refer to themselves as a “divorce mediation attorney” or “divorce mediation lawyer.” Some are mental health professionals. While others, like Equitable Mediation founder, Joe Dillon, have a financial background.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What’s the difference between family law mediation and divorce mediation?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    While the terms can sometimes be used interchangeably, “family law mediation” is the broader of the two. For example, family law mediation may be used to help non-married Washington parents make decisions on and resolve issues of child custody. In this case, since they were never married, there would be no “divorce” in the mediation process.

    While any topic involving the family may be brought to resolution using a family law mediator, divorce mediation refers to a specific alternative dispute resolution process focused on ending the parties’ marriage.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Can a divorce mediator give me legal advice?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    No. They cannot and must remain impartial – even if they are an attorney-mediator. In their role as an unbiased, neutral third party, they must not provide legal advice.

    You can learn more about the differences between divorce mediation and divorce lawyers in this post.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Can you really help us find common ground? We don’t seem to agree on much.” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Yes. As a professionally trained mediator with more than 25 years of experience, I’ve found that couples can reach agreement when both parties are willing to engage in good-faith negotiations and approach the process with an openness to compromise.

    What often surprises couples is that they actually agree on more than they realize. When emotions are running high, it’s natural to focus on points of conflict while overlooking areas where they’re in lock step. Sometimes, couples don’t even recognize when they’re in agreement until I point it out – which makes sense given that communication difficulties are a common cause of divorce.

    People who choose mediation typically want to keep things peaceful. And it’s this shared goal that already creates common ground. When you explain to them what will happen if they don’t reach agreement in mediation – i.e. they’ll be forced into a more contentious divorce process – they’re more likely to compromise and reach agreement.

    In my experience, when couples participate together in mediation, and have to look each other in the eye when they make an offer, it becomes harder to propose unfair solutions.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”How much does a divorce cost in Washington State when mediation is used?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Divorce mediation costs vary depending on the skill level and experience of the mediator, scope of services included and case complexities. If you’re wondering about the cost of divorce mediation, you might be focusing on the mediator’s hourly rate, or in our case, flat-fee. But there are a number of other equally, if not more important factors contributing to the overall cost of divorce mediation.

    One is the mediator’s experience. You may be thinking naturally, a more experience a mediator has a higher fee. But that’s not what we’re talking about. An experienced mediator is going to be sure to cover present and known and potential future issues. This way, you’ll likely avoid having to return to mediation (or worse yet, court) and spend more money down the line when circumstances change.

    It’s expensive (and stressful) to try to resolve a missed issue and modify your divorce decree, so the more thorough your agreement is at the time of your divorce will be a cost-avoidance for you in the future.

    Another factor attributed to cost is the services included in the mediation. For example, some Seattle mediators like us offer divorce coaching for emotional support, while other mediators don’t. Or whether the mediator drafts a thorough written agreement, or a simple agreement that would need to be re-written by an attorney at an additional cost to you. And some mediators may even require each spouse to hire an attorney to review their agreement, while others who believe in the power of self-determination, don’t.

    You can work with an inexperienced mediator for what you think is a low fee, but once mediation is completed, spend another few thousand dollars to have your agreement re-written by an attorney, or potentially another $10,000- $20,000 in the future to resolve missed issues.

    Or you can choose an experienced mediator who might have a higher fee, but who will provide a more thorough service, written agreement, and resolution on present and anticipated future issues, which in turn, will save you a lot of money in the long run.

    Each mediator has their own mediation fee structure, but the average cost of divorce mediation in Washington State is between $6,000 to $10,000

    Because we develop a customized mediation plan for each couple, based on their unique needs and circumstances, fees for our divorce mediation services vary. But even the most complex cases cost a fraction of traditional litigation using family law attorneys or collaborative law process.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”How do I know if mediation is a realistic option for my uncontested divorce in Seattle?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Mediation is a feasible option if:

    • You and your spouse are both ready to take part in a good faith and transparent negotiation which requires full financial disclosure;
    • There is some level of mutual respect between you and your spouse and you’re both ready to actively participate – this is because mediation is a voluntary process and will only work if you are both committed to it;
    • You would like to have an experienced professional mediator help you identify, discuss and negotiate the required divorce issues, but you want full control over your divorce agreement and want to make your own decisions.

    If one of you wants to mediate, but one of you does not, unfortunately, mediation will not be an option in your case.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Are divorce mediation and arbitration the same thing?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    While both the divorce mediation and arbitration processes involve gathering information, working with multiple parties, and conversations taking place between the participants and a third-party, there is one significant difference between them.

    In arbitration, the solution to the parties’ disagreement is decided by the involved third-party arbitrator like a private judge in what’s known as a settlement conference. Whereas mediators believe the solution to the parties disagreement lies with them, and mediator helps the parties come to agreements on their own in one or more negotiation sessions.

    We feel divorce mediation is a better ADR (alternative dispute resolution) alternative than arbitration, as it empowers the parties to make the decisions that are in their mutual best interest. Rather than allowing a total stranger to make decisions for them that may or may not work in their particular case.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”I’ve heard about something called “Shuttle Mediation.” Can you explain a bit more about what that is, and if Equitable Mediation uses that approach?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Shuttle mediation is where the mediator would help the two spouses resolve the relevant issues (parenting plan, child support, alimony, division of assets and liabilities, etc.) without both of them being present in the same room, or on the same Zoom call.

    Shuttle mediation can be useful in cases with special circumstances (where two parties truly do wish to mediate, but they are unwilling or unable to be in the same room at the same time, such as with domestic violence). However we prefer direct negotiations – working with both spouses at the same time, as we have found this breeds more trust among the parties. Therefore, we do not perform shuttle mediation.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Who can be a divorce mediator in Washington State?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    There is no requirement in Washington State for a mediator to be licensed or certified. That means anyone can call themselves Washington State mediators. And while that may be a positive in that it can provide divorcing couples alternatives to the adversarial legal system, it’s critically important to ensure that the mediator you choose has the proper skills and experience to guide you through your divorce in Washington State.

    It’s not uncommon for attorneys to call themselves a “divorce mediation lawyer” or a “mediation attorney” as they feel attending law school or understanding family law issues also qualifies them to be divorce mediators. But in our opinion, litigating or advocating for one party is an entirely different skill set than acting as a neutral third party and assisting both parties towards fair and equitable resolution.

    Learn more about how to find a good mediator.

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    A mediator will draft what’s known as a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) which contains all of the agreements the parties made with regards to items that affect their family such as parenting time and decision-making, child support, spousal maintenance and property division.

    After mediation is completed, the agreements outlined in the MOU are then formally drafted by a qualified professional into a legally binding document known as the Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA), which is signed by the parties and is one of the (many) legal documents that are submitted to the court to finalize the parties’ dissolution of marriage.

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    There’s no need to travel to an office for our sessions. We’ve been conducting divorce mediation services remotely since 2011, allowing us to serve couples throughout the Seattle metropolitan area from the comfort of their own homes or offices.

    We’ve helped client couples in Seattle, Bellevue, Kent, Everett, Renton, Federal Way, Kirkland, Auburn, Redmond, Shoreline, Bothell, Burien, Lynnwood, Edmonds, Puyallup, Sammamish, Lacey, Marysville, Issaquah, Tukwila, Mercer Island, Des Moines, and SeaTac.

    Our virtual approach provides maximum convenience while ensuring the same professional, confidential service you would receive in person.

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    Why Trust Equitable Mediation

    Equitable Mediation Services is a trusted and nationally recognized provider of divorce mediation, serving couples exclusively in California, New Jersey, Washington, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. Founded in 2008, this husband-and-wife team has successfully guided over 1,000 couples through the complex divorce process, helping them reach amicable, fair, and thorough agreements that balance each party’s interests and prioritize their children’s well-being. All without involving attorneys if they so choose.

    At the heart of Equitable Mediation are Joe Dillon, MBA, and Cheryl Dillon, CPC—two compassionate, experienced professionals committed to helping couples resolve the financial, emotional, and practical issues of divorce peacefully and with dignity.

    Joe Dillon, MBA – Divorce Mediator & Financial Expert

    As a seasoned Divorce Mediator with an MBA in Finance, Joe Dillon specializes in helping clients navigate complex parental and financial issues, including:

    • Physical and legal custody
    • Spousal support (alimony) and child support
    • Equitable distribution and community property division
    • Business ownership
    • Retirement accounts, stock options, and RSUs

    Joe’s unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insight enables him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations, reaching fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial well-being.

    He brings clarity and structure to even the most challenging negotiations, ensuring both parties feel heard, supported, and in control of their outcome. This approach has earned him a reputation as one of the most trusted names in alternative dispute resolution.

    Cheryl Dillon, CPC – Certified Divorce Coach & Client Advocate

    Cheryl Dillon is a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and the Divorce Coach at Equitable Mediation. She earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology and completed formal training at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – an internationally recognized leader in the field of coaching education.

    Her unique blend of emotional intelligence, coaching expertise, and personal insight enables her to guide individuals through the emotional complexities of divorce compassionately.

    Cheryl’s approach fosters improved communication, reduced conflict, and better decision-making, equipping clients to manage the challenges of divorce effectively. Emotions have a profound impact on shaping the divorce process, its outcomes, and the future well-being of all involved.

    What We Offer: Flat-Fee, Full-Service Divorce Mediation

    Equitable Mediation provides:

    • Full-service divorce mediation with real financial expertise
    • Convenient, online sessions via Zoom
    • Unlimited sessions for one customized flat fee (no hourly billing surprises)
    • Child custody and parenting plan negotiation
    • Spousal support and asset division mediation
    • Divorce coaching and emotional support
    • Free and paid educational courses on the divorce process

    Whether clients are facing financial complexities, looking to safeguard their children’s futures, or trying to protect everything they’ve worked hard to build, Equitable Mediation has the expertise to guide them towards the outcomes that matter most to them and their families.

    Why Couples Choose Equitable Mediation

    • 98% case resolution rate
    • Trusted by over 1,000 families since 2008
    • Subject-matter experts in the states in which they practice
    • Known for confidential, respectful, and cost-effective processes
    • Recommendations by therapists, financial planners, and former clients

    Equitable Mediation Services operates in:

    • California: San Francisco, San Diego, Los Angeles
    • New Jersey: Bridgewater, Morristown, Short Hills
    • Washington: Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland
    • New York: NYC, Long Island
    • Illinois: Chicago, North Shore
    • Pennsylvania: Philadelphia, Bucks County, Montgomery County, Pittsburgh, Allegheny County

    Schedule a Free Discovery Call to learn if you’re a good candidate for divorce mediation with Joe and Cheryl.

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  • New Jersey Child Support: a Guide to Safeguarding Your Children’s Financial Future

    New Jersey Child Support: a Guide to Safeguarding Your Children’s Financial Future

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    As a mom or dad preparing to start divorce mediation in New Jersey, your children are most likely your number one concern. And they should be. You love your kids and want the world for them. So now that you’re getting a divorce, how do you make sure they get the financial support they need in order to live healthy and happy lives?

    That’s where NJ child support comes in.

    And there’s a lot more to child support in New Jersey than you might think.

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    What is the purpose of child support?

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    Child support is one of four topics that are discussed and agreed upon in mediation along with:

    The purpose of child support is to ensure that you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse are meeting the financial needs of your children.

    However, it is essential to understand that child support encompasses more than just financial considerations.

    Many parents think the purpose of child support is to make sure they have enough money after they’re divorced to pay for the items their kids need. But that’s only partially correct.

    Divorce is complicated for your children. The fighting and the stress you’re going through can really take a toll on them. Soon, you will no longer be husband and wife, but you’ll always be Mom and Dad.

    Child support demonstrates to your kids that you still love them and care about their well-being.

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    NJ has three main principles behind its child support guidelines:

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    1. Child support is a continuing obligation of both parents as the children belong to both of them; and
    2. Children are entitled to share in the current income of both parents and not simply the parent who has custody; and
    3. Children should not become the economic victims of divorce.

    When it comes to New Jersey child support, it is pretty clear that you and your spouse must remain as responsible for your children financially after you’re divorced as you were while you were married.

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    There are a few things you need to know about the challenges of determining child support in NJ:

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    • While there is a child support guideline, it only represents the minimum, it doesn’t include all the expenses required to raise a child, and it isn’t applicable in all situations.
    • While inflation has returned to more manageable levels, mortgage interest rates continue to remain elevated, making housing children even more expensive in the Garden State.
    • This topic has less to do with child support laws or payments and more to do with money, negotiation, and doing what’s in the best interest of your kids.
    • There is more than meets the eye on this issue and in the majority of cases, this subject is much too complex for you to try to resolve on your own.

    That’s why you will get the best result by mediating with us.

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    The child support guidelines in New Jersey only represent the minimum.

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    Federal law requires all 50 states to have a standardized method for determining child support. So every state has a child support guideline and the formulas vary from state to state. Some states use a simple percentage-based formula. You’d take a share of the supporting party’s income and give it to the other party and you’re done.

    But not in New Jersey.

    Determining child support in NJ is a highly complex undertaking.

    NJ uses something called the Income Shares Model. The income shares model attempts to take into account several factors including:

    • Your incomes;
    • The ages of your children;
    • The amount of spousal support one of you pays and receives (yes, alimony is a factor in determining child support in NJ).

    Several other factors may be considered.

    From there, the NJ child support guideline will attempt to approximate the minimum amount of financial support needed to raise your children in the State of New Jersey. Notice I didn’t say “formula,” I said guideline. And I didn’t say that the guidelines provide an “adequate” or “reasonable” amount of child support. I said minimum.

    Please note that the state of New Jersey developed this guideline. But the state of NJ doesn’t know the exact amount required to ensure your kids are properly supported so they’ll thrive.

    Only you know what it really costs to raise your kids!

    So, while you might think you’re following the guideline and using the calculated number, it’s not even close. The reality is, the number isn’t a hard and fast formula, but rather, a suggestion. And it’s just a starting point for negotiation.

    From there, it’s up to you and your spouse to negotiate an agreement that’s in the best interests of your children and that you both find fair.

    Which is not so easy to do. Especially given the cost of living in towns like Montclair and Morristown!

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    A lot is left out of the NJ child support guidelines.

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    So far, you’ve learned the child support NJ guidelines attempt to provide divorcing parents with an estimate of the minimum amount of financial support needed to raise their children. And then it allocates a portion of that amount to each of you based on a number of factors.

    But even when you run the guideline, there are still many other children’s expenses that aren’t included.

    The NJ child support guidelines factor in the following costs, among others:

    • Housing;
    • Food;
    • Clothing;
    • Transportation;
    • Entertainment;
    • Health insurance;
    • Unreimbursed health care up to and including $250 per year.

    The state of NJ regards these as the “ordinary expenses” incurred while raising a child. But as a parent, you know there’s so much more involved than just feeding your kids and putting a roof over their heads!

    There’s also:

    • Daycare;
    • Music lessons;
    • Dance classes;
    • Summer camps;
    • Laptops and smartphones;
    • Prom dresses and tuxes;
    • Car insurance;
    • And the list goes on and on…

    All of these are known as “extraordinary” expenses and are not included in the basic child support amount. These items must be discussed and negotiated separately to ensure your children get the financial support they need and deserve.

    Starting to see why determining child support is not as simple as using some free calculator you may have found on the Internet?

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    There are other exclusions to child support in New Jersey.

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    In addition to the ordinary and extraordinary costs associated with having a child, you and your spouse will also need to discuss and come to an agreement on:

    • Who deducts the children on their taxes;
    • Who will pay for their health insurance;
    • Whether you have enough life insurance to cover the children’s expenses including when they go off to college;
    • How college tuition costs will be paid for;
    • The duration child support in New Jersey payments last (because for some children, it may extend beyond age 19)

    Making the list of what is not resolved by running the guidelines longer and longer.

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    The New Jersey child support guidelines aren’t applicable in all situations.

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    In order for the NJ child support guideline to be applied as-is, your income and your spouse’s income must be predictable from month-to-month and year-to-year. So if one or both of you earn more of your compensation from bonuses, commissions, or stock options, the guidelines simply won’t work.

    There’s an “upper-income limit” on the guidelines.

    Meaning if you and your spouse collectively earn more than a set amount per year, the guidelines also won’t work.

    Another example of why it’s called a child support guideline and not a formula. In either case, you’ll have no choice but to skip the guidelines and negotiate instead. Which is not always so easy to do.

    And the answer to “how long is child support paid for in New Jersey” isn’t as simple as you think.

    A few years back, the Governor of NJ signed a bill into law that establishes 19 as the age when a parent’s child support and/or medical support obligation will end.

    So child support ends at age 19. Right? Well… maybe…

    The truth is there can be exceptions agreed upon by you and your spouse. As parents, the two of you have quite a bit of latitude to decide what works for your children, in your unique situation. So while child support can end at age 19, more often than not, it doesn’t.

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    When the law gets involved, it’s a problem.

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    There’s something you need to understand here: In a litigated divorce, a judge determines child support. Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

    Because they’ll dictate the terms of the settlement in court and both spouses might wind up with something they don’t think is fair or that doesn’t appropriately meet the needs of their children.

    That’s why it’s better to negotiate this issue out of court and that’s exactly what mediation is all about.

    In mediation, you get to decide – and come to an agreement that’s in the best interest of your children and you both agree is fair, instead of letting your future be decided by a stranger.

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    You’ll get the best result by mediating with us.

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    Child support issues will vary based on your situation and circumstances. And as you’ve learned, there is more than meets the eye on this topic. So don’t risk putting your children’s financial future in jeopardy by trying to resolve child support on your own.

    Use divorce mediation and work with us instead!

    Using our extensive financial knowledge of the complex matters of child support in NJ, we’ll help you and your spouse determine a child support amount that accurately reflects your lives as parents and the specialized needs of your children.

    One that covers all ordinary, extraordinary, and future expenses.

    • We’ll talk about who your children are, what they like to do, and what it will take to make sure they’re getting what they need and deserve. Not just what the formula says you have to pay so they can “get by.”
    • Work through specialized cases like joint custody child support in which you share in the parenting time and care of your children equally. As joint custody child support has its own unique method for determination. We’ll also explore arrangements in which the children spend a majority of their time with one parent as this, too, has its own special approach.
    • Help you negotiate any issues of disagreement and create an agreement you both find fair and equitable regarding the support of your children.
    • Make sure you and your spouse not only come to an agreement that you both find to be fair but also one that minimizes tax issues, avoids penalties, and improves cash flow whenever possible.

    Because no two situations are alike.

    Your children are unique and your child support agreement should reflect that, too.

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    Take your first step towards a peaceful divorce

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    Yes. Court-ordered mediation is ordered by a judge in a litigated divorce proceeding. So if you choose the traditional route to divorce through the court system, you’ll be obligated to attend “mediation” as part of the divorce settlement process.

    New Jersey requires parties in litigation to engage in mandatory mediation which is referred to as an early settlement panel. This panel consists of three professionals, typically lawyers and mental health professionals, who will hear the facts regarding your case, and make a recommendation to the judge on what your parenting time or financial agreements should look like. It is not uncommon for the judge to accept the recommendation of the early settlement panel.

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    There are four significant differences between court-ordered mediation and private mediation.

    First, when mediation is court-ordered, you don’t get to choose your mediator like you would with private mediation. So, you could end up with a mediator you don’t like or with whom you’re not comfortable working.

    Second, the mediators on the family law court roster may be less experienced than private mediators. The only requirement to become a family court mediator in New Jersey is to take a 40-hour mediation training class. So many new mediators get their start this way and have little or no “real-world” experience.

    Third, if your situation is complex, a court-appointed mediator may not have the experience to handle unique issues like yours. In that case, not only will you have wasted your time, but you and your spouse may find yourselves even farther from agreement.

    Finally, private mediation is not mandated by a judge. The couple forgoes the attorney-driven path to divorce and instead chooses to mediate. So if you and your spouse both agree to use mediation, you’ll hire a private divorce mediator like us, typically before you file for divorce. We would then help you identify, discuss, negotiate and reach an amicable agreement through mediation on all of the required issues, confidentially and without the involvement of divorce lawyers (if you choose).

    In our opinion, mediation is generally more effective when conducted privately.

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    There is no legal requirement that you must have a divorce attorney and many people specifically choose mediation because they want to divorce without lawyers.

    However, depending on their professional background and approach, some mediators do require each spouse to hire a lawyer to consult with throughout mediation.

    While attorney consultation is not required in our mediation process, we fully support clients who wish to seek legal counsel for advice on New Jersey divorce law. Our focus is on empowering you to make informed decisions in whatever way works best for your situation.

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    Since no two mediators are alike, the actual mediation process will vary from mediator-to-mediator. But here’s a high-level overview of what happens throughout the divorce mediation process once you become our client:

    To kick things off, your first mediation session will be a one-hour strategy session. In this session, Joe (our mediator) will help you both prepare for mediation by:

    • Developing a framework for your negotiations;
    • Identifying key areas of concern you each have;
    • Defining your goals for the divorce mediation process;
    • Directing you to begin gathering important financial documents;
    • And instructing you on how to work together to complete our proprietary forms and worksheets.

    This part of the mediation process is intended to help you, and Joe to define what a successful mediation will look like and greatly increase the chances you will come to an agreement.

    Once you’ve submitted to us the required pre-work and discovery items, the mediation process transitions to negotiations.

    Joe will meet with you and your spouse online – using Zoom – and guide you through a series of conversations encompassing the issues that need to be settled for your divorce. Each session lasts approximately 2-hours, and the number and timing of sessions are determined by the two of you and Joe. Depending greatly on the details of your divorce, and the complexity of the issues you face.

    If areas of disagreement arise in a mediation session, Joe will use his expertise in a variety of dispute resolution techniques to help you negotiate and reach agreement during the mediation on these topics. Once agreement is reached for all required issues, Joe will then draft a complex written document called a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU), outlining all decisions made during your negotiations.

    Upon completion of mediation, you will be encouraged to have your written agreement reviewed by your own respective lawyer, however it is your decision whether or not to do so.

    Once you both agree the MOU looks good as-is, you will then hire a filing professional who will assist with the paperwork preparation process. Your divorce papers may include, but are not limited to, the uncontested divorce filing, the divorce complaint, the marital settlement agreement, and budgets, along with a host of other related Illinois court paperwork. It’s important to note there are attorney and non-attorney filing professionals and it is your choice of which professional to have your divorce filed with the court with.

    Upon receipt of the proper documentation and filing fees, your uncontested judgement of divorce will be granted by a judge as there is no waiting period in Illinois.

    Our mediation process is very efficient and can be completed in a fraction of the time that a litigated divorce or collaborative law process would take.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”Can divorce mediation work in a complex New Jersey divorce?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    While we can’t speak for all New Jersey mediators, for couples who choose to work with us, the answer is a decisive yes. We routinely handle complex divorces including long-term marriages, business ownership, sophisticated compensation structures, high-value assets, and families with special needs children.

    Read case studies and learn more about who we help.

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    No! It is not necessary for the two of you to have everything already decided before you start mediation. In fact, many couples specifically wait for their divorce mediator to help them talk about and resolve the issues because they can’t agree on their own. This way, you can make sure things will remain amicable between you, and that all issues will be discussed thoroughly, in the proper order, and given the time and attention they require.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”We’re getting a divorce in NJ. How do we know if mediation is a good option for us?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Mediation is a good option if:

    • You are both willing to take part in a transparent, honest, and “good faith” negotiation which includes full disclosure;
    • There is a level of mutual respect between you, and because mediation is a voluntary process, you’re both willing to actively participate and be fair and reasonable;
    • You want a skilled divorce professional to help you resolve the required issues, but you want to maintain full control over your divorce agreement and make your own decisions.

    Since it takes far less time, costs far less, and preserves family relationships, mediation is almost always the preferred alternative to traditional divorce.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What if my spouse and I don’t reach an agreement in mediation?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    98% of our clients successfully resolve their divorce through mediation, so when working with us, there is a high probability/likelihood of success. But if you and your spouse don’t reach a complete agreement in mediation, there is still a constructive path forward/option.

    In our experience, most “incomplete” mediations only have one or two remaining issues to resolve, not the entire divorce. You and your spouse can continue working on specific unresolved points with mediation-friendly attorneys who will help you build upon the progress already made in mediation.

    Remember that choosing mediation is already a positive step toward an amicable divorce. Even if you need additional support later, the groundwork you lay during mediation often proves invaluable in reaching your final resolution.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”If we already started divorce litigation can we still mediate?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Yes. Mediation remains an option even after litigation has begun. If both spouses agree, they can pause their court proceedings and work with a mediator to reach a settlement. While the emotional intensity of divorce litigation can make this transition challenging, many couples find that switching to mediation helps them regain control of their divorce process and work toward a more amicable resolution.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”How long does a New Jersey divorce take using mediation?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Every mediator’s process (if they have one) is different, so we can only speak to how long divorce mediation takes working with us.

    Most couples complete their mediation in 3 – 5 sessions, meeting with Joe every other week. On average, divorce mediation takes 2 – 3 months. The speed of our divorce mediation process is largely within your control. Your timeline will depend on the complexities of your case, how quickly you complete the required financial work between sessions, ease in coordinating your schedules, and pace in reaching decisions.

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    Yes, divorce mediation is significantly less expensive than going to court. According to an article that appeared in the Motley Fool, going to court will cost a couple on average $46,600 if they can agree quickly, and are only litigating one or two issues. But (and this is important) if one of those issues is alimony or child support, those fees will more than double. With the cost of going to court ranging between $100,000 and $200,000. Even the most complex divorce mediations cost a fraction of a traditional litigated process.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”How much does divorce mediation cost in New Jersey?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    The total cost of mediation varies greatly and is dependent on a number of factors including, but not limited to:

    • The experience and expertise of the mediator;
    • The thoroughness of the mediator’s process;
    • The comprehensiveness of the services the mediator provides;
    • The relationship dynamic between the parties and willingness to compromise and negotiate the issues.

    You can work with an inexperienced mediator for a lower hourly rate or flat-fee, but then once mediation is completed, spend another few thousand dollars to have your agreement re-written by attorneys (and/or tens of thousands of dollars in the future to resolve missed issues.) Or you can work with an experienced mediator whose fee might be higher, but who delivers a more thorough service, written agreement, and resolution on both present and known/potential future issues, which will save you money, time and stress in the long run.

    To learn more, read: The Real Truth Behind Divorce Mediation Costs

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    There are significant differences between these divorce options ranging from the number of professionals involved, approach, speed, cost, fairness, control, tone, and more. This article will help you understand in more detail, a comparison of mediation vs lawyers for divorce, and this article will help you understand the differences between mediation and collaborative law (also referred to as collaborative divorce), and learn the benefits we believe mediation provides.

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    Divorce mediation and arbitration are distinct alternative dispute resolution methods, though both help couples avoid traditional court battles. In mediation, a neutral mediator facilitates discussions between spouses to reach mutually agreeable solutions but doesn’t make decisions for them. This collaborative approach gives couples complete control over the outcome while typically saving time and money.

    Arbitration, on the other hand, functions more like a private court where an arbitrator – essentially a private judge – hears both sides and makes binding decisions. While arbitration is usually faster and more confidential than court proceedings, the couple surrenders decision-making power to the arbitrator. Unlike mediation’s flexible nature, arbitration follows stricter procedures and may feel more adversarial.

    While both options offer privacy and efficiency, mediation generally fosters better communication and co-parenting relationships, as couples work together to shape their future rather than having solutions imposed upon them.

    [/fusion_toggle][fusion_toggle title=”What’s the difference between a divorce mediator and a divorce mediation lawyer?” open=”no” title_color=”var(–awb-color8)” content_color=”var(–awb-color8)”]

    Mediators come from a variety of different backgrounds. You may find a mediator who is an attorney and who refers to themselves as a “divorce mediation lawyer.” Some mediators are mental health professionals. Others, like Equitable Mediation’s founder, Joe Dillon, have a financial background.

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    There are several steps you can take to prepare for divorce mediation.

    Read our post for some divorce mediation tips and a NJ divorce mediation checklist.

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    There’s no need to travel to an office for our sessions. We’ve been conducting divorce mediation services remotely since 2011, allowing us to serve couples throughout New Jersey from the comfort of their own homes or offices.

    We’ve helped client couples in cities such as: Newark, Jersey City, Lakewood, Edison, Woodbridge, Toms River, Hamilton, Trenton, Clifton, Brick, Cherry Hill, Middletown, Old Bridge, Gloucester Township, East Orange, Franklin Township, North Bergen, Vineland, Union Township, Piscataway, New Brunswick, Jackson, Wayne, Parsippany-Troy Hills, Howell, Hoboken, Plainfield, West New York, Washington Township, East Brunswick, West Orange, Evesham, Bridgewater, South Brunswick, Egg Harbor, Manchester, Hackensack, Sayreville, Mount Laurel, Berkeley Heights, North Brunswick, Morristown, Hillsborough, Belle Mead, and Princeton.

    Our virtual approach provides maximum convenience while ensuring the same professional, confidential service you would receive in person.

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    Why Trust Equitable Mediation

    Equitable Mediation Services is a trusted and nationally recognized provider of divorce mediation, serving couples exclusively in California, New Jersey, Washington, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. Founded in 2008, this husband-and-wife team has successfully guided over 1,000 couples through the complex divorce process, helping them reach amicable, fair, and thorough agreements that balance each party’s interests and prioritize their children’s well-being. All without involving attorneys if they so choose.

    At the heart of Equitable Mediation are Joe Dillon, MBA, and Cheryl Dillon, CPC—two compassionate, experienced professionals committed to helping couples resolve the financial, emotional, and practical issues of divorce peacefully and with dignity.

    Joe Dillon, MBA – Divorce Mediator & Financial Expert

    As a seasoned Divorce Mediator with an MBA in Finance, Joe Dillon specializes in helping clients navigate complex parental and financial issues, including:

    • Physical and legal custody
    • Spousal support (alimony) and child support
    • Equitable distribution and community property division
    • Business ownership
    • Retirement accounts, stock options, and RSUs

    Joe’s unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insight enables him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations, reaching fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial well-being.

    He brings clarity and structure to even the most challenging negotiations, ensuring both parties feel heard, supported, and in control of their outcome. This approach has earned him a reputation as one of the most trusted names in alternative dispute resolution.

    Cheryl Dillon, CPC – Certified Divorce Coach & Client Advocate

    Cheryl Dillon is a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and the Divorce Coach at Equitable Mediation. She earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology and completed formal training at The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – an internationally recognized leader in the field of coaching education.

    Her unique blend of emotional intelligence, coaching expertise, and personal insight enables her to guide individuals through the emotional complexities of divorce compassionately.

    Cheryl’s approach fosters improved communication, reduced conflict, and better decision-making, equipping clients to manage the challenges of divorce effectively. Emotions have a profound impact on shaping the divorce process, its outcomes, and the future well-being of all involved.

    What We Offer: Flat-Fee, Full-Service Divorce Mediation

    Equitable Mediation provides:

    • Full-service divorce mediation with real financial expertise
    • Convenient, online sessions via Zoom
    • Unlimited sessions for one customized flat fee (no hourly billing surprises)
    • Child custody and parenting plan negotiation
    • Spousal support and asset division mediation
    • Divorce coaching and emotional support
    • Free and paid educational courses on the divorce process

    Whether clients are facing financial complexities, looking to safeguard their children’s futures, or trying to protect everything they’ve worked hard to build, Equitable Mediation has the expertise to guide them towards the outcomes that matter most to them and their families.

    Why Couples Choose Equitable Mediation

    • 98% case resolution rate
    • Trusted by over 1,000 families since 2008
    • Subject-matter experts in the states in which they practice
    • Known for confidential, respectful, and cost-effective processes
    • Recommendations by therapists, financial planners, and former clients

    Equitable Mediation Services operates in:

    • California: San Francisco, San Diego, Los Angeles
    • New Jersey: Bridgewater, Morristown, Short Hills
    • Washington: Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland
    • New York: NYC, Long Island
    • Illinois: Chicago, North Shore
    • Pennsylvania: Philadelphia, Bucks County, Montgomery County, Pittsburgh, Allegheny County

    Schedule a Free Discovery Call to learn if you’re a good candidate for divorce mediation with Joe and Cheryl.

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